👋 Hi. This is my first time posting on Reddit. I need some advice but to be honest this is probably just a lost cause and I'm just gunna end up venting. Please, no judgement or insults. I'm asking for help.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year. He got his dog (as a puppy) a couple months before we started dating. The dog is a viszla/boxer mix. So he's a pretty big dog. Now, when we first started dating the dog was BAD. Like really bad. Was it typical puppy behavior? I don't really know. I've had dogs my whole life but not puppies. And all the dogs I've shared a household with were really good, well mannered dogs. My mom is great with animals and always put a lot of time and effort in to training them. Anyway, in the beginning BF's dog would be put in the other room with the door shut when we would have sex, because the dog would try to jump up on the bed, or lick our feet. He didn't like that, so he would shit or piss in the other room, knowing that he's only supposed to do that outside. (I knew that he knew cuz when BF would go out there the dog would put his head down in shame) That was the first thing that threw me off about this dog, other than the dog jumping all over my car when I'd pull up, thankfully I drove an '07 at the time so it wasn't a big deal. He also was doing this thing where he'd jump up and steal food off of counters, tables and dig through the trash and make a huge mess. That doesn't happen anymore, thankfully, but We couldn't even go to the store for 5 mins without the dog fucking up the house. The dog has serious codependency issues. If we order food, and my BF goes outside for two seconds to get the food the dog starts yipping and howling like someone's beating him. And I'm not exaggerating. It literally sounds like someone's beating him. The first time I heard it I ran downstairs cuz I didn't know wtf was going on I thought he was hurt. When he's in the car with us and BF goes in the store he's incessantly whining. I've tried to coddle him tell him "it's ok" Give him a treat, pet him, but I gave up on that cuz I started feeling like I was enabling him. The dog always shoves other dogs out of the way when someone's petting the other dog. When I go to visit my mom I can't even say hi to her German shepherd without the dog running over and butting his way in, my moms GSD even gets fed up with his shit. The dog is not fixed. Yet. I told BF a few months back that I don't want him on the bed anymore. 1, because I've had to wipe shit off of his ass numerous times. 2, because he dragged this disgusting green smegma across my back seat when I took him out with me to run errands one day and I had to hang up the phone with my dad, get out of my car and puke and then wipe it off his penis and my backseat. (He never licks his genitals when it actually counts -_-) And 3, because the bed is too small and if we sleep with him in the bed I wake up sweating and wedged against the wall. The smegma thing also happened numerous times but the time in my car was the final straw. There was so much of it. It was disgusting. And BF thinks I'm an evil witch for this. The dog follows him all around the house. Whines when BF even gets in the shower. Dog harasses people for food. Although he knows not to do that with me anymore, because I'm the only one who's consistent with discipline. But BF let's the dog sit by his hip while everyone's at the table eating and stare at them. Not ok. With all that other annoying shit aside, my biggest concern is the jumping. Also the codependency but we'll get to that in a second. He jumps on people all the time. BF let's him do it while he's playing with him and he shoves the dog down and the dog keeps going because BF let's him think that's how you play. I'm 8 months pregnant. The dog tries to jump on me all the time when I get to the house. I always shove him down and hold him down on the floor and tell him NO. BF tells him no too but what does it mean to the dog when that's how BF plays with him? The dog knocked over someone's baby shortly after we started dating but like I said the dog was a total nightmare in the beginning. I don't know if the dog knows better now. I know my baby's safe in my belly but what about when she's here? What if hes being rambunctious (he has too much energy and no one tells him to cut the shit when he's acting like that indoors) and he jumps up and lands on my baby and breaks one of her ribs or scratches her eye? Or knocks over her bassinet? I've been telling BF for a long time to get the dog neutered because my mom told me he'll start to calm down but BF just didn't give a shit and now with this COVID19 shit going on I don't even know if we can find a vet to do it now. As far as I know only emergency vets are open and they don't neuter, I called and asked. I feel like my dad is the only person whose been taking my concerns seriously. Dad told me he had to give away his dog Zeke shortly after I was born (german shepherd/chow/pitbull mix) because he turned wicked aggressive all of a sudden and started doing shit like growling at me and my mom. My dad loved that dog to pieces but knew what had to be done. Also, Zeke wasn't fixed- I found out recently that the beagle who bit a piece out of my lip when I was 11 years old wasn't fixed either. Is it true that male dogs who don't get neutered are more prone to be aggressive later on? And this is where the codependency ties in- I'm really worried the dog might become jealous of the baby and intentionally hurt her. I don't know what to do, besides not leave the baby around the dog unsupervised but I don't think I can trust BF or his mom to do the same cuz like I said my dad is the only person who is taking my concerns seriously. And yes, the dog is walked 2-3 times a day and BF spends a lot of time outside with him playing fetch and he gets to visit his Rottweiler cousin and my mom's German Shepherd and play with them regularly. Sorry for the long rant I just don't know what to do
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