Okay need to get this off my chest while I lay crying in my bed cause I feel so guilty. Please don't judge.
We adopted two 4 month old kittens yesterday, a brother and a sister. We used to have 5 cats at one point. From those five there's only one left, a little black 16 year old girl. She is the sweetest, most gentle thing. Eventhough she is 16, she still loves spending time outdoors. In may one of our original 5 cats passed away since then we only had our black one. We've been wanting a kitten for a while cause we used to have so many cats and now the house felt so empty, we waited and debated for a while, we got them and one day has passed and it's not going well.
We got two thinking they would entertain eachother leaving the older cat alone. Now the problem seems to be that one of these 2 kittens already wants to dominate our older cat. She growls and hissses at the older one, which was to be expected in the beginning (her brother does this too but runs away in the process), what concerns me is that at one point during conflict she started to approach the older cat while growling instead of backing off. The older one didn't growl back and kind of just backed off herself, the older one did hiss at one point but started getting smaller too... The female kitten was also growling at her brother at different points during the day. Our older cat doesn't want to be in our living room anymore...I put her in my bedroom now and she's sleeping on my bed. I keep her away from the kittens at night. I feel so terrible and am so scared these kittens will shorten my black baby's life.
It's becoming winter and colder and I want my older cat to feel comfortable coming inside when she feels like it...
The day before adopting we almost cancelled cause we were scarred for our older cat so we explained our concerns to the foster family and asked how it went with their cat (they had an 8 year old adult), they said it was fine and thought we should give it a shot with the kittens. And here we are now, I feel immense guilt and regret. I almost feel like bringing them back but I feel so embarrassed too.
The female kitten seems a bad influence on her brother too. She is more scarred of us than he, in the beginning her brother was more explorative while she was hiding a longer time. I was able to eventually pet her brother and he went to sleep purring. She didn't want to eat either, he did. I only got her to drink a bit of cat milk (so without lactose obviously). Now that's harder again and he seems to kind of follow her lead.. I truly believe the boy is an easygoing baby but to bring back only one seems highly unethical too.
I don't know what to do! Should I wait a bit longer, see how things are in a few days? I feel so bad for our old cat.
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