Hi! Hope someone can give me some pointers on how to make this decision.
A few years back, when I was still living with my parents, I got a kitten. She's always been very 'wild', loves the outside, hunts, climbs the highest roofs, etc. But at also loves to cuddle and sleeps as close to you as possible in bed all night.
Over a year ago she became very scared and distant. it's like something traumatic happened to her. We got a new puppy. But it didn't start immediately when the pup got there. She doesn't want to come inside anymore. She will stand in front of the window miaowing. (for food or attention). There's a pretty big and comfortable separate room attached to the house she can enter at all times, where we don't come very often. It's the only place she goes, apart from a tiny guesthouse in the yard. So at least she still has comfortable inside & outside living. Not too bad.
But when I was housesitting, I stayed in that separate room, which is basically her house, and noticed she was áll over me all the time. Just like before. She was so happy and cuddly, started playing around me like she used to do, get zoomies, she left me mice again. Purring uncontrollably. All the things she stopped doing.
She also started coming inside the house again, but only to run up to my bedroom, to sleep together. You do have to guide her because she won't make the trip by herself. Every sound and movement in the house startles her. If you pick her up inside the house and move her around she'll literally scream. She has to be in control of where she goes. Only reason she follows is because she trusts that I will open and shut the bedroom door for her and it will be just us.
We thought she would come around & just had to get used to the new dog but we're not sure if that's it. She doesn't run from him, she's even starting to join our night walks, like she did with our old dog. But it's obvious she finds him way too energetic, so she likes to keep her distance.
Now, I thought about taking her with me. I have my own place with a yard. It would be just the two of us, like she enjoyed so much. There would be nothing to scare her and she can get the affection she clearly misses a lot. She wouldn't have to be so stressed all the time. Seriously, she has crazy eyes.
The thing is that she's used to rural living, big yard and house, trees and grasslands. I do have my own ground level apartment with a yard, but it is in a (small) city. There's lots of other houses and gardens around us, and also many other cats. (she's used to other cats, but not this many in a small area). My place is way smaller. Now this isn't so bad in the winter and fall when she's inside most of the time, but other times of the year she's used to an amazing yard with all these spots and sheds and possibilities to go in and out as she pleases.
Should I wait longer for her to maybe get comfortable again, or should I try my place? I don't want to stress her out even more.
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