Hello everyone,It's my first post and I (30F) am on the Asperger side so if I'm saying things that are obviously not okay, I'm here for you to just tell it to me (please don't be mad).
I lost my dad this week, which means in a matter of months, I'm going to lose my childhood house since we'll have to sell it. Long story very short, I'm also going to lose my own accommodation because it's my mom's. She'll move at my place and I'll have to find my own (to rent or to buy with my small heritage).
My whole life is about to change and for somebody on the spectrum, I'm very disturbed about it all.
On top of it all, my moving means I'm also going to "lose" my neighbours' cats. They're 2 loving brothers that basically live at my place. I've always petted them but didn't lure them in with food or anything. One day, more than a year ago, my neighbours got a third cat who is very aggressive and wild-ish. Since then, I think the two cats were a lot more at ease at my place. They sleep here, they follow me and my bf around like good doggies and - as I type this - one of them is cleaning itself right by me. They eat my cat's food and I take care of them. We're in good terms with the neighbours. They thank me all the time for the good care. They bring me a bag of dry food once in a while. It's never enough but I don't care about that. I treat them like mine at this point. My neighbours even (half?) joke about it. Once, they saw one of them on my couch and somebody asked if it was my cat. The neighbour answered, laughing, "well... I don't know about that but I'm the one who has the ID papers".
Don't get me wrong, they don't treat their animals poorly. I just know I take better care in general : I notice worms, I take care of their dreadlocks, I brush them, I notice ticks and small injuries... And with the neighbours, we share wormers and fleas treatments costs.
Yesterday, I told the woman that my father passed and that I was sad to leave the place and sad about the idea of not seeing the cats anymore. She said it was a pity because they liked us. I want to add here that very few closest relatives knows about my Asperger syndrome. It's not noticeable socially. It passes for a bit of "originality". My neighbours don't know.
If I find a great place to rent/buy with a garden like we have now, I wanted to ask them to buy/adopt their two cats but I have the feeling that I have to let them go. Should I ask ? Am I totally out of place ? I'm very lost and sad about it all. I don't manage well right now, on top of my grieving.
Sure I will still be able to see the cats when my mom will live at my current place but she owns a loud little dog and the cats won't come inside anymore.
Thank you very much for your advice.
Edit : typos... English isn't my first language. Sorry for the grammar.
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