My parents have a beautiful green cheek conure (1.5 yo) and the cutest budgie ever (around 6 months). Two wonderful adorable boys.
It’s breaking my heart to see how many things my parents are ignoring that could be harming them a LOT... I’ve tried telling them MANY times but they literally get insulted, you know, who am I to tell them how to keep their birds, they have kept parrots ever since they were young young kids etc.
The only thing is those birds never really... how do I say it... lasted long...
I do understand that (at least in my country) only recently more information on bird care became available and my parents have improved a lot in how they go about taking care of their pets. They got it from a trustworthy breeder, they got bigger cages and give them more food variation. That part is all good.
But.
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They keep the birds in the same room where the kitchen is, and I understand that that is the best place for the birds to be during the day, but when they’re actually cooking something, ESPECIALLY when it involves a lot of smoke, they should really just remove the birds from the room... I have heard so many horror stories about birds choking just from being around the stove when they are cooking, I can’t even watch that... While I was living there (up until about a month ago) I was really trying to make sure to keep the birds out of the kitchen when there’s something cooking, without letting them know why I’m doing it. But I don’t live here and I’m in constant fear that something will happen to them...
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They smoke around the birds. I have told them SO MANY FREAKING TIMES how dangerous that shit can be, like they even smoke when the bird is on their shoulder! While I was there, I used to take the birds away when they smoke but now there’s no one around to do it... Even I, an adult human whose lungs are bigger than the birds themselves, get choked on the cigarette smoke... The birds are literally smokers at this point, they smell like cigarettes..!
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The birds just do NOT get a good night’s sleep. They do not. Period. This is the part that maybe worries me the most and that got me crying at 4AM right now, writing this because I can’t handle it anymore... Ever since I left to live with my boyfriend, my stepfather started sleeping in the same room where the birds are. My stepfather has a HUGE snoring problem. It’s extreme, it’s like he’s choking while sleeping constantly, it’s so loud, so disgusting that even I can’t fall asleep (I’m on a sleepover due to holidays), let alone two tiny sensitive birds! And I’m not even in the same room as him!!!! There’s a freaking door separating me from him while they are NEXT TO HIS BED!!!
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When I was there the birds were almost ALWAYS out, because I was at home a lot while everyone else was working. So I’d let them out and play with them a lot or just let them chill around the room every single day. They would leave the cage every day for AT LEAST three hours, two times a day. AT LEAST. Normally it would be much more. Since I’m not around, they barely even let them out... Today they told me the birds didn’t even go out once... I’m so pissed and terrified of coming here, I feel like the less I know the better I feel but at the same time I’m still constantly worrying at home anyway, I just don’t know what to do...
Some of these things are legit animal abuse, if not all of them, and God I have tried telling them nicely and have tried different approaches and for some things they would listen to me but most things they just do not care or are offended that I even gave my opinion...
I don’t know what to do, I don’t know how to help, and animal cruelty call centers or whatever it is do not exist here pretty much, especially for birds. The only way you can attract something like that is if someone is heavily beating up cats or dogs, and even that is tough to get action on.
Even if there was a way, how the hell do you call it on your own parents who genuinely do want best for the birds?? They love them, they very clearly do, the birds are the best thing that’s happened to the family in a long long time...
What the hell do I try?? What other approach can I go for??
The budgie is very active, he’s so energetic and enthusiastic, yet so gentle, very clean and very polite. He’s literally the sweetest and if I didn’t know what I know, I’d be convinced he’s fine.
But the green cheek... he’s become so aggressive, so angry since I’ve gone and I know it’s 100% because he’s not going out a lot and can not sleep well. I know how angry he gets if anyone wakes him up or disrupts his daily routine. He doesn’t like to be put in the cage too soon, let alone not even let out...
My brother is afraid of him because he doesn’t like my brother at all, he always attacks him, so my parents just have to keep him inside because they can’t bother trying to keep everyone safe while he’s out when they come home tired for work.
I want to understand them, but with all of this put together, I just don’t. I don’t get it.
I’ll try to talk about it again in the morning, maybe with my mom only as she’s a little more sensitive about this and she herself often can’t sleep because of my stepfather’s snoring... They must do something about it because this is absurd...
I don’t even expect anyone to give me any potential solutions, I’m not even asking any questions, I’m just emotional and have to let it out...
If someone has had a similar experience, maybe hearing about the problem or the solution for it if you ever found one would be helpful...
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