Please help.
I’m moving out of the family home into a small 2 bed flat a 40 minute drive away.
I’ve read conflicting things online about whether a cat is more bonded to an environment or ‘their person’ and I feel like I am in an impossible situation. I am moving out in 3 months and ANY advice would be appreciated. I honestly just want the best for my sweet girl - the least stress and the best life for her but I just don’t know the right answer. I wish I could just ask her what she wants.
CONTEXT:
I have just graduated and I am finally moving out of the family home. My cat is 8 years old - we’ve had her since she was 8 weeks old and her whole life she’s lived in my parents house with 5 people. For context our house is a large 3 bedroom, with a big garden which backs on to a meadow she is allowed full access to. Everyone will agree she is 1000% ‘my cat’ - she will follow me around, mews at me constantly, greets me, seeks me alone out for cuddles, sleeps in my room or camps outside my door etc. She will tolerate affection from others sometimes, but she won’t run to them like she does me - if you have a bonded cat you know.
I am now moving into a small 2 bedroom flat a 40 minute drive away with no garden and close to main roads. I have graduated university and will likely be out most of the day when I find work.
I am so conflicted. It seems so unbearably cruel either way. I hate the idea of pulling her away from her big house she’s always known, take away her freedom of the outdoors, she will never again feel the air in her fur, to be able to explore and hunt and to trade that for her to be cooped up inside in a flat that may eventually be empty most of the time except weekends. I hate the idea of her being stressed out on the journey up there and depressed at losing everything familiar to her. On the other hand I AM HER PERSON. I love her so so much. I don’t want her to think I’ve deserted her, I don’t want her to look for where mum is, for her to be sad without me. God it breaks my heart. I fully plan on visiting my folks at least once a week but that worries me too because what if that causes her to really look for me in the days I’m not there? UGH :(
My sister has reassured me if we do leave her behind she will be loved and well looked after but if you have a bonded cat you know.
What is the right answer? What is the best choice for my cat?
Is there a way to ease this transition period whichever way it goes?
Sorry for the essay.
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