I'm not sure if this would belong to the memorials, but I'll post here because this is actually more about getting a new cat... We lost our cat a couple of years ago, and are finally getting a new one. It's been really weird living without one, since I practically grew up with the last one... (Well, she obviously grew faster.) So getting a new (grown) one from the shelter felt like a right thing to do. There's tons of cats who need homes, and our friends have and had lots of lovely shelter cats.
But it feels weird. It's like I'm suddenly grieving our old cat all over again, as if she died a second time or something. She was constantly in our memories and now a new cat somehow makes it final that she's gone. I'm also suddenly full or worries and kind of afraid that I won't have as close relationship with the new cat, or that it'll have some sort of issues we can't predict or can't fix - after all, we can't know what has happened in the past to that said cat - or that it won't accept small kids when they visit, or that it doesn't like me, or bites someone really bad and I need to be afraid that there will be some issues, or, or... Our old cat was so easy and kind, and I knew her and how to be with her. We had our own things and I need to learn that all over again.
Am I overreacting or is this normal? My brain adjusting to a new situation? Getting a cat is a big change and responsibility, after all, and I won't be as free to go as I was when I was without one for these couple of years, either... Plus I'm not sure I'm completely over the old cat's death yet, since I had her for almost 20 years and we were really close, but didn't except this strong reaction anyway. :(
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