Hello, I'm new and really hoping for some advice. Please, if this shouldn't be posted here, could you direct me to where I can get help!? I know someone who has a lot of animals. I live in Tn., in case that's important. So this girl and her family were sort of close for some time, but I'm considering no longer being friends due to many issues (this being the main). (I'll call her Ray)(also i apologize for the very long story) When I got to know Ray and her family they moved to a different house. The house, as it turns out, is a huge problem. It's got black mold in multiple places, there is a wall the is damp and mushy, and it's not being fixed my the landlords. Now Ray got some gueinia pigs after moving. She had twin kittens boy and girl (unfixed), two large dogs (fixed) mutts, and two old cats with bad attitudes. Ray ended up rescuing a pregnant cat after moving. The cat was near death and sick, it birthed too early, and the kittens were still born. Ray nursed mama to health. Ray would make excuses for not neutering her male cat. He was becoming an adult and I often mentioned with his and his sisters age, plus a new mama, it could end up being a bad situation. Ray didn't, for a long time. Finally she did, however the twin surprised her with two kittens. Twin was too young and ended up leaving the kittens alone in a closet, where they died, prolly froze to death. Ray now said mama is pregnant too, but admitted she let mama roam outside often, so it could be from anywhere. Mama is also very young and just got healthy. Meanwhile, Ray has had some issues with her gueinia pigs too. She randomly bought one (calling him uno for ease), and then decided he needed a friend and bought another (dos). She built this open play pen and called it their cage. With the black mold I mentioned that I was worried about their health. I was also worried for Ray, their kid, and her husband. Ray basically ignored that. She refused to do anything about the situation. So Dos was just plain unhappy. He was unsocial, and terrified. He bit every chance he got, and it just wasn't fair for him. Suddenly Ray buys a third (furball), claiming this was "mine" (I can't have any rodent type pets atm and want one soon as I can) i had no idea, and she just randomly called this my pet, and it lived with her. Well, Ray decided Dos was miserable and took him back. Ray got a replament (black jack). That seemed justified since Dos was so sad, and I tried to keep that in mind. Now, Ray had lived with her sister, who is a hoarder (let's not get into that right now), before this house. Ray's step son also lives at this new house every other weekend. Her step son has been abused badly by his birth mother, and needs therapy. They have mentioned getting a service dog for his ptsd, therapist recommended to help with feeling safe. So, Ray found a breeder and wanted a very expensive breed (I can't for the life of me remember what breed atm). They would have to travel from Tn all the way to L.A. for this dog, and then find a training program for it. (Their plan🤷🏻♀️) they paid 600 so far and were going to pay 600 more, but someone online started bashing her animal care, and tried to prevent this adoption. So she tells me she and this breeder in L.A have talked and agreed to call the $600 even, but Ray must pay for the plane or way for this puppy to get here. ....I mentioned Ray already has two dogs. One is a little untrained (Bella), and the other is a rescue saved from abuse (Kobah). Kobah is most likely some kinda of great Dane mix and is huge and skinny. Bella is some sort of hound mixed with something fluffy. Kobah is the favorite. Ray often gets annoyed with Bella for just existing it would seem, but fawns over Kobah for nothing. Kobah does seem underweight, but I've been told it's his build, by a vet. Now this is a one bathroom, two tiny bedroom house. That is a lot of animals and people for such a small place, but it gets worse. Ray's sister Hannah got evicted for hoarding. Hannah has 2 older chihuahua s Roro and Queenie , and 3 old cats. Hannah had no where to go so Ray let her move in. Hannah let's he pets do whatever, she lets the use the toilet anywhere, and doesn't clean up. Hannah doesn't shower and uses a bucket to avoid leaving a tv screen. It's disgusting. When Hannah was moving in, one of her cats went missing, and another was dying. She refused to put him out of his misery. It's sick. Hannah took Rays stepsons room. He has been moved onto a couch. Apparently Hannah slept with her dog, and the dog found the guinea pigs. Roro got a hold of Black jack and shook him to death. This traumatized Uno and he has gone from friendly and happy to aggressive and miserable. Sadly it's not over yet, Ray found a litter of puppies inside a dump. They were abandoned there and she helped catch them. She ended up taking not one, but two puppies from the litter home. Now that is, Hannah, Ray, rays husband, two large dogs, 2 gueinia pigs, 7 cats, a litter on the way, and now two puppies that will be large dogs once grown. I was already feeling uncomfortable with her situation, but this was making up my mind. The puppies are unsocialized, and skiddish. They are also sickly. A month passes and she calls me to tell me Furball has gone to live with her step son. She tells me I was supposed to be buying fireballs food and providing his care (again this is her random pet, and she never said a word, but called it mine) so she is annoyed that I hadn't "done my part". I said next time she needs to ask before hand, and secondly I will not be paying for something she randomly gets with the excuse of being "my" pet. I told her I also do not want her calling any of her animals mine. She was angry, and said I couldn't have been attached since I "didn't do the animal care". I dropped it. I know she is hopeless argument wise anyhow. She calls me later that month and tells me she wants to rehome mama. I had suggested it from the beginning and encouraged this. She said the puppies were so hard to care for, and she felt overwhelmed. She then said she was considering rehoming the twins too. I told her , if she would hold on a while, I would take them since I'd grown to love them a lot. She agreed happily. Later on, I was called and yelled at for trying to take her twins. She said she raised the twins and they had those kittens and it was all so hard, and they'd never leave her side, and was yelling at me for asking about them. That was the last straw, and I don't really want to be her friend, but I do love her step son so much, I love her animals, and her husband is much nicer. I've come to terms with not seeing the people, but I'm concerned for the animals. Well, Ray calls and tells me she had adopted the male puppy out. She said he was healthy and happy, but she had to rush and taken him back. She said she was so worried about the pup, cause he was super sick. He was vomiting, weak, dehydrated, and not eating or drinking. I told her to take him to an emergency vet. She has snapped repeatedly at my suggestions on how She cares for her pets, saying She knows perfectly how to care for them and how dare I call her dumb, but these things keep happening, so I was hoping she'd just take the puppy to get help. She said she would take him to a normal vet and can't afford an emergency one. The next day she called and told me he was dead. She had never taken him to the vet. She figured he had parvo and was trying to sanatize the house so her puppy didn't get it. So I tried to avoid contact, when a month later She tells me she adopted the girl puppy out to this perfect home. I said that was good. She wanted to ask if I wanted a kitten, as they were due any moment. I said no, and ended the conversation. Later she calls me. furball is back after her step son was trying to throw him around instead of setting him down, and he cant stay in the same cage as uno cause uno now hates everything and everyone. More worrying, She has 5 chickens and 3 ducklings! It's illegal to have livestock in this city. I asked Ray why she had them. She said she bought them. She wants to raise them to be meat for her dogs, and the future service dog. She tells me the puppy is back, cause the new "perfect" owner couldn't handle how unsocialized the pup was. Ray says it's fine and they are planning how they will be getting the new service puppy and do training. I mention how it's illegal to have chickens and ducks here. She said "oh they will be staying at my friends farm starting tomorrow, she has a farm already so we bought them and She will take them in. We are gonna keep the ducks though" i asked why she thought ducks were a good idea. She ignored me. She said they are transitioning to raw feeding the dogs and will strictly raw feed the incoming puppy. I haven't been talking to her much, but I'm just too concerned about all the pets. With so much, I don't even know what to do or where to start. Does anyone have any ideas? Is there some sort of instructions for any of this?
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