Hi there!
We've found a new housemate a couple months ago to fill a room in our house. They're lovely, pay their rent on time, and a nice human.
This may seem like the opposite of a problem- and to a degree it is, but this housemate is obsessed with my rescue kitty and won't give her space when the cat obviously wants it.
They'll follow the cat around the house, picking her up and trying to hold her when my cat is struggling out of her arms. My kitty gets anxious and hides under the couch when she's feeling a little overwhelmed/over people. My housemate will lay on the ground and stick their arm under the couch to pat the kitty which I feel is an invasion of my cat's 'safe space'.
When all the housemates watch tv together, this housemate will constantly try to stir up the kitty to play (again, not the issue) but then my cat gets sick of it, hides under the couch, and doesn't come to cuddle me on the couch when this housemate is around which is upsetting (rip) because we all know how great kitty cuddles are.
This housemate had friends over who all wanted to cuddle my kitty (cause she's hella cute- I get it- who wouldn't?) but after they left, the kitty went and peed on multiple pieces of furniture. Again, a sign of stress/displeasure. I got a pheromone plug in to calm her and asked my housemate for them or their friends to not pick her up due to the stress on my cat and the furniture now being covered in cat wee.
This was the thing that made me most upset and felt was the biggest boundary crossed-
I wake up early to feed my kitty and tend to go back to bed for another couple of hours. One morning, after I had fed the cat, I woke up to hearing this housemate saying "oh are you hungry? Let me grab you some food." I jolted out of bed and made it clear that she's been fed, and I'm the one to feed her. I don't feel like I should have to justify this, but for context- kitty has had a sensitive stomach since I rescued her and I like to know when she's fed, what she's fed so I can keep an eye on her litterbox, and know if there's an issue what the cause could be. We've been to the vet multiple times this last month because of her tummy issues. :(
TLDR- I'm stoked that my housemate loves my cat, but I'm not sure how to bring up that I can see she's stressing my cat out and interfering with our sacred cuddle time on the couch (if a cat chooses to sit on you, it's sacred! ) Help?
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