My 12 year old cat passed away 3 weeks ago, which left myself and my other 3 year old car devastated. The 3 year old was visibly lost and confused - the other cat and him were never bffs, but it was a companion none the less.
I wanted to open my heart and home to a new kitty who needed it and after about a week of searching, adopted a kitten from the spca last week. I was aiming to get an older cat, but he stood out. At the spca, he was loving and everything felt right. However, the next morning I began to experience extreme remorse - did I get the wrong cat ? Did I adopt too soon? Etc. Him and the other cat play, but that's about it- sometimes the established cat seems stressed, which I'm sure is normal. The kitten also wants nothing to do with myself and my boyfriend, which again I acknowledge is normal, just a bit thrown off as we're not used to it.
Of course I'm going to give more time for everyone to adjust but am still unsure if this will work out and wondered if anyone had similar experiences and could offer any insight. I worry I made a decision too soon as I am still desperately mourning the cat I lost, and expect I will for the rest of my life.
I worry returning the kitten will traumatize him and only make things worse for my established cat. There is also the concern the spca would never let me adopt again in the future.
Please don't judge as everything is hurtful enough. I just want to do the right thing by everyone.
Thank you
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