I have three roommates, my friend, her boyfriend and my boyfriend. We each have a dog. I have a very well behaved, quiet Pitbull and they have a Pomeranian.
I love their dog, but their dog hates my dog. Meanwhile my dog LOVES their dog. She’s done everything possible to make their dog comfortable, she only goes over to the small dog when we allow her to and is very gentle and sweet with it.
The small dog barked and bites at my dog, and the fact that the only other animal in the house refuses to be around her has made my dog extremely sad and stressed out. It’s also made her “excited greeter” tendencies 100x worse and has made my dog very difficult to deal with in a dog filled apartment complex.
So, I’ve been thinking of adopting a kitten. My dog was taken from her litter of puppies before I adopted her and has taken to treating her toys like her children. She’s always been good with small animals and is great with cats. So I thought getting a kitten would help relieve her stress around not being able to interact with my roommates dog, as well as the sadness of losing her puppies. I also have always wanted a kitten, so it was really a win win.
I recently discovered our neighbors are giving away 5 week old kittens, who already live with and are comfortable with a large dog. So I wanted to adopt one. I asked my boyfriend first (who’s terrified of cats) and he was actually excited for the idea as long as he got to pick the cat out. I then asked my other roommate what she thought and she was really excited as well. Then, she asked her boyfriend who just outright refused.
I asked why, and if there was anything I could do to relieve any concerns he had. First he said it was because we have a two pet limit in our apartment, but my dog is a service animal so she doesn’t qualify as a pet and I’m very close with my psych so I could get the cat added to my ESA letter so we wouldn’t have to pay any additional fees. Then he said he didn’t want to deal with the smell. We have our own bedrooms separated by a large living room, along with our own bathrooms attached to our bedroom. So I told him the cat would be secluded to my bedroom and bathroom until it was 100% house trained (it’d stay in my space for the first month to make sure there are no accidents) and that I would clean its litter box every single day to make sure there was no cat smell, because I can’t STAND the smell of unclean litter. I am the cleanest person in this entire apartment, I deep clean twice a week and am the only person who cleans and organizes our apartment. I even told him we could just try a two week trial and if there’s anything that bothers him that I can’t change, I will give the kitten back to the neighbors. Still he refused, and said he’d “talk about it later”.
I’m honestly upset, I put up with everything their dog does that drives me and my dog nuts without complaint. It barks every time a door opens, and every time my dog moves. It gets sick at the drop of a hat and poops/throws up everywhere making the apartment reek. I even had to give up my hedgehog that I’ve had ever since my 18th birthday because they said they didn’t like “critters”.
I feel like I’ve done everything to accommodate any concerns he’s had, even though everyone else in the apartment has absolutely no problem with me getting a cat. Honestly, its extremely frustrating that I have to BEG this man for his approval. Especially since one of the major reasons I want a cat is because of how stressed out their dog is making mine. She’s very social and lived with 2 other dogs at my old house, so not being able to even be around the other dog has made her depressed. They also won’t train their dog to keep it from trying to attack mine. It’s extremely frustrating and I’m honestly tempted to just get the cat anyway. I don’t know, the whole thing feels shitty to me.
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