not sure if i should’ve posted this here or in petloss, sorry if this is the wrong forum.
— just a bit of background: i had my first pet, a dog, since i was 9 yrs old. we had to put him to sleep this NYE after 14 years.
so my boyfriend and i adopted a kitten in november, she’s very sweet and cuddly and good natured, and i do care for her.
the problem is that as soon as i got her, i felt a bit of a “wall” go up in my heart. i feel very protective of her and i will always try my very best to give her the best, happiest, healthiest life possible, but the love i had for my dog was incomparable.
since my dog passed, i’m feeling very withdrawn from her. i still act the same towards her, and i still will do my best for her. however, i find myself wishing she was my dog, comparing the two of them, or thinking about how i would give her up to have him back (i know this sounds horrible, and i feel horrible for feeling this way). im just having a hard time separating my grief and my feelings for her and it’s presenting itself in a bit of resentment and regret.
how can i change how i feel towards her? she is so sweet and she very obviously loves me. i just feel so guilty that i feel detached from her.
thanks in advance.
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