Hello everyone, looking for advice right now. I'm at a bit of a loss. I will lay out the scenario as best I can.
My girlfriend and I live in separate apartments. We had been dating for half a year. Let's call her Sarah. She has two adult cats she had rescued as kittens, a male and a pregnant female about ready to give birth sometime soon. So Sarah went on a camping trip over Memorial Day weekend with her family to a site about 30 minutes out of town. And on Saturday, we had plans to play paintball 2 hours away. Sarah left town on Friday at 5 a.m. so that they could turn the holiday to a 4-day weekend. I didn't join them because I had to work (and I don't like camping). My job was currently backed up, so I also had to come in throughout the weekend to work on my caseload. Friday night, Sarah messaged me and asked to make sure her no one had broken into her apartment. Neighbors had stared at her and creeped her out when she was leaving. So I went to Sarah's place, barricaded the back door and hoped for the best. One thing I did notice was that one of her cats ate too much and threw up half-eaten kibble. I didn't spend much time there, needing to spend time prepping for the paintball trip. Saturday morning, Sarah came back to my place so we could carpool. Had fun, came back to town around 3 p.m. Sarah jumped back into her car and headed back to the campground immediately because her family had called and messaged that she was taking too long to get back. After an hour or showering and relaxing, I decided to go back to Sarah's apartment to put a load of laundry in the washer before work. Once I did, I noticed that her cats had zero food in their bowls. Even the half-eaten thrown up food was also eaten. Stunned, I make sure to put food in their bowl and headed to work. Sunday afternoon, the same process. Sunday night, Sarah came back into town and was going to visit a friend. Wanted to know if I would join her. At this time, I didn't tell Sarah at all what I saw. What I wanted to know were her actions. So we hung out, and after it was over, Sarah wanted to come back to my place. Not a single mention or thought of going to check on her pets. So she stayed with me until Monday evening. I took a couple of days to reflect on what happened. She didn't leave her pets enough food to last the four days she was gone (They ran out of food a day and a half in). She didn't appoint anyone to check on her cats (She asked me to check once, but it was to check security, not her cats). And she was in town on each day, but never went back to her apartment. So on Thursday, I went to her place, brought up the issue, and broke with her. She doesn't understand what the big deal is, saying it was only one mistake, none of her cats were hurt, and that I was overreacting.
Thoughts? Comments? Questions?
Sidenotes: She not usually this bad (sometimes I come over and the cats' water bowl is dry) but if this is how she treats two animals she loves, how will she handle anything else? And I have to say, our relationship was pretty good until this point.
TLDR - Girlfriend neglected her pets, so I broke up with her.
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