I don't know what to do. I just adopted a cat a few days ago, and I'm feeling uneasy about it. Prior to this adoption, I already had a cat (let's call her S) -- I adopted her this past March, and she is the sweetest, most affectionate, most talkative kitty ever. She's basically my perfect cat, and I fell in love with her instantly. My brother was fostering her during the beginning of quarantine, and I adopted her after she'd spent a few weeks with us. I had been told by the shelter that she had come from a house with 5 cats and a dog, so I thought that maybe sometime down the line I could get her a friend. She's pretty needy, so I figured I would try and get a friend before my job goes back in person eventually, especially since I live by myself now.
Flash forward to now -- I sent in an adoption application to a local shelter, and because of covid, they match people with a specific cat and you don't get to meet them beforehand. They told me a brief description of him (1 year old, can get along with female cats, sweet), and then I got to see a couple pictures of him, and that was that. He was the only option they gave me. In hindsight, I felt a little pressured into making a decision because of how quickly the process moved and how in demand cats are right now (at least in my area), and I ended up going through with the adoption.
I brought home the cat (let's call him F), and he was freaked out, as to be expected. I'm a huge cat lover, I've grown up with them, and I love just about all of them, but when I first brought him home, I didn't feel that same sort of connection that I felt with S (or any other cat, for that matter). He doesn't feel like MY cat. He's given me love headbutts and sat in my lap a few times, but it still feels off. He's the biggest cat I've ever seen, his eyes are always HUGE, I can't tell how he really feels, and he plays fairly aggressively with toys. I'm scared to try and do much at the moment that he doesn't initiate for fear that he'll end up biting/clawing at me. I'm keeping F in his own room, but every time I go in there, S keeps meowing nonstop because she wants to be with me and is upset that I'm spending time without her. It breaks my heart. Also, when trying to slowly introduce S and F, they both hissed at each other. I know that should be expected, but I have NEVER heard S hiss before, even though she's been stressed out before, and that really hit me hard. I never expected to feel this broken and emotional about this whole ordeal.
I feel like a terrible person for feeling like maybe I need to give him back to the shelter. It feels like I'm letting both F and S down right now, let alone the people from the shelter who let me adopt F. I just don't know what to do, and I've been crying about this whole thing a lot. Any advice anyone has is appreciated.
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