So my boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years. The whole time his German Shepherd whose 6 now has always distrusted me? Or disliked me? Recently my boyfriend has had to work longer and frequently. So I'm always stuck caring for him. Since I'm caring for him more now I'm wanting to gain his trust. I'm a culinary student and I have been going to college to become a chef, I'm usually trying new recipes and inventing dishes. I usually let him sample my food. I can say he's very judgy lol. Anyways, this doesn't seem to attract him; as he just eats the samples and walks away. I mean they aren't bad I don't think and there has to be at least one he has liked. I also make sure he eats correctly, and give him treats to appease his canine belly. Still, no love from him. My boyfriend has been abused before from a girlfriend, it was pretty severe and he needed help and therapy. He was also living alone with a slight drinking problem. Don't worry he's much better now as that was 3ish years ago? Back to the point, his dog has been there for him every step of the way. This plus the fact my bf lived alone they had a lot of time together. I guess the dog also calmed him down and assisted his trauma. While this is good and all but couldn't this mean it'll take a long time before the dog even starts to trust me? The dog is always all over him and kissing him, they play awhile, and the dog even can understand what he's saying sometimes like 'stop'. But the dog doesn't do any of that to me and in fact seems disinterested when I'm around. If I want him to stop he literally doesn't care. I'm also not the only one as my bf's childhood friend has a problem with the dog. Much different than mine however as he is always licking her. When she tells him to stop he doesn't stop and just always eats her face. Note I haven't tried much if not any sort of playing or bonding with the dog, I just didn't enjoy it.
TL;DR, Dog hasn't trusted me despite caring for it and treating it right. I haven't bonded with it at all the three years I've known it. However, my boyfriend has been through some hard stuff like abuse from a partner before. He needed treatment and help and the dog has always been with him. My boyfriend has owned the dog for 6 years.
How can I get the dogs trust? Could this just be that the dog has some sort of connection? Like I've heard owners and pets grow very strong about eachother when they live alone. What would you do?
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