I recently adopted an adult male cat from my local shelter. I already have one adult female cat who is very sweet and non-aggressive, she also sometimes suffers from anxiety. (This is important later on) I had a cat that passed away from cancer last December around Christmas and now we're in June and me and my husband felt we were ready to move on and welcome another cat in our home. The cat we lost was a purebred from a breeder, we considered getting a new kitten from a breeder but felt it would be more appropriate to adopt a cat from our local shelter that was in need of a home. Last week I visited the shelter and picked a young male cat that seemed very sweet and kind. After bringing him home I kept him in a separate room away from my other cat. She could smell him under the door if she wanted to. We followed all the instructions on introducing a new cat to another cat. The first meeting he was very aggressive and tried to attack her which gave her a lot of stress. I separated them again for a few days and tried again, this time it seemed better, he didn't try to attack her but was very vocal that he didn't like her. He acted very territorial and aggressive toward our cat, letting her know this was his house. We knew that wasn't good but hoped for the best. He is pretty aggressive with me and my husband and plays very rough. He makes us bleed and brakes skin, and sneak attacks us when he's upset. We choose to ignore the bad aggressive behaviors towards us but were worried about the behaviors towards our cat. Today was the last straw when he sprayed all over a freshly clean basket of laundry. We have three litter boxes for both cats but have never let him see or use my other cats litter box. We were so confused and baffled. Right before he sprayed he was being naughty and tried to jump on the counter, something I don't allow. I noticed he was getting ready to jump and I scolded him saying in a firm voice "please don't do that sir." This happen twice within a few minutes and then I turned around and saw him spraying all over my laundry. (He is fixed). My husband was upset because it was his work clothes and said I had to return him to the shelter immediately. I'm so sad because he is a really nice cat if it's just me and him alone and he is fairly nice to my husband. But if he sees us being affectionate with our other cat he gets aggressive and tries to run over and attack her. We feel that he can't peacefully coexist with our cat and we have to think of her first because this is her home first. We don't want to cause her stress or any more anxiety as she already is suffering from his behaviors. We don't like that he bullies her and tries to attack her. We think this is the best choice for everyone. It's clear to us that he needs to be in a home with just himself and no other cats.
Am I terrible for surrendering him? What would you do?
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