Hi, everyone! Before I begin, I’d like to give a bit of background: my partner and I adore animals and after some time together and a lot of consideration, we decided to adopt from a rescue. We’re both pretty active and our main goal was to adopt a cat that showed interests towards the outdoors and was sociable enough to maybe try exploring beyond our doorstep. I understand that not many cats are interested and I would never force an animal out of their comfort zone, but we did express this to the rescue that was handling our case.
They matched us with a super cute, young cat that was supposedly super loveable and well-socialised, was more of a people loved than cats lover (she shared a house with some other foster cats) and we were told she’d be a perfect fit. We chatted on the phone for the evaluations and such and long story short this is how Daisy joined our family.
Unfortunately, Daisy was nothing like the rescue described her. She’s extremely shy/scared cat that would only ever come out at night. We are trying everything out there that I could find as helpful information to help her along - Feliway, Bach’s Rescue Droplets, hand feeding her, a ton of playtime (as much as she allows), scheduled feeding, etc - and after many days she has made some progress. For example, she lets me touch her, she plays more, she purrs during the night but only from a distance. However, even after following all the tips I could find, she’s still only comfortable during the night. To such extend, she barely lets us sleep. She wants to approach us during night time and if we don’t oblige, she meows all the time. The odd thing is that she meows and purrs simultaneously so I am unsure what she’s trying to communicate with us.
I’m near my limit from not sleeping... I am a very light sleeper so I’ll be lucky to get 2-3 hours before I go to work. It’s exhausting and really disheartening. We’re ignoring her when she meows during the night, as suggested by our vet, but she goes on for hours.
I spoke to her foster mom a couple of times and she basically said she exaggerated her friendliness, since she couldn’t get Daisy adopted for a very long time.
I love Daisy, she’s a cute, funny lady, with super odd meow, and the cutest face ever, and I won’t stop trying to socialise her but, sometimes, I can’t help feeling a pang of disappointment... and then guilt. I was imagining a cat that could maybe one day explore with us. Which will never be the case and that’s fine, we’ll respect her personality. But the sleepless nights are very difficult. I was wondering if anyone has gone through the same? Has anyone gotten ‘mismatched’? Or felt disappointed even though your pet is still great? I feel so bad of having negative thoughts but, yeah.. Here we are.
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