I have three cats, all rescues (two from shelter and one from the streets), with two males and one female. The youngest male, who is younger than the female, seems to constantly attack the female whenever he sees her. If he so much as catches a glance of her white fur running around, he'll sneak up on her and pounce, and which usually ends up her screaming with ears back and pupils as dilated as they can be. He never growls or hisses, but he's also a very quiet cat - his meows are almost like whispers - however, his eyes are always as dilated as they can be as well.
For some background info: all three of the cats are spayed/neutered. My Mom and I first adopted Yoko, the female (she's now around 5-6), and Finn, the oldest male (who's around 12-13), at the same time back in Dec. 2017. Yoko is a calico/tortoiseshell, if that'll be any help. Finn seemed to acclimate pretty quickly to our house, but Yoko was skittish and hid a bit for the first handful of weeks. Her and Finn also had a few fights here and there, but none were as severe. They quickly turned into playful fights rather than aggressive ones, and the two also spent a lot of time grooming each other and cuddling.
Then, in Dec. 2018, we took in a young orange tabby that was living behind a local restaurant, Ollie. He's the youngest of the three (around 3-4) but the biggest. We kept them separated for the first few weeks, feeding them through closed doors and getting them used to each other's scents, and then introduced them completely. Finn and Ollie fought a few times to my knowledge, but just like with Yoko, they turned into playful fights rather than aggressive ones after a bit. Yoko, however, wouldn't even be near Ollie, running away at every chance. We kept her separated from Ollie for a few months, doing our best to spend as much time as possible with both cats (granted my Mom was working full time and I was in high school, so we were gone for 8+ hours a day), but to no avail Yoko still runs from Ollie and he chases her. It's been like that ever since, and once he sees her he won't stop until he's nearly on top of her before he backs down. She'll run to a corner or between a cabinet and wall - where there's only one way out - and he'll back up a few feet and just sit there watching her, blocking her exit. Also, whenever Yoko goes to use the litter box, Ollie will sometimes sneak up on her and block her in it, and I'm afraid it's making Yoko scared to use the bathroom.
We have three separate litter boxes, three water bowls, and three food bowls. Each cat is fed separately - Yoko on her perch in the kitchen, Ollie on the cat tree in the living room, and Finn in the floor. They're fed around four times a day, and at their last yearly check ups the vet said everything looked good besides needing a dental cleaning, which all three cats have already gotten. We even take Ollie out for walks and have a play pen we'll take outside and put him in, as he seems to always want to go outside. The only thing keeping us from having him as an outdoor cat is that we live on a area with a lot of large dogs, and our street has problems of speeding traffic.
I usually will have either Ollie or Yoko sleep with me in my bedroom, and let the other sleep outside the room in the rest of the house. I try to alternate who stays in the room with me overnight and who doesn't. Whenever one of them is in my room for the night, they have all the necessities (litter box, toys, water, food, bed).
I just don't know what to do anymore. We had Yoko first, and now I sometimes feel she's constantly living in fear and stress due to Ollie. Maybe she's just aged over the last two years, but she looks more tired and worn down some days. Her stress has even gotten to her and Finn going at it sometimes, even though they were fine with one another before we got Ollie. I'll be moving out in about 2.5 years for when I go off to grad school, and plan on taking her with me as she seems to be more of a solitary cat. Are there any tips on what to do in the meantime until I finish undergrad and can move out with her?
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