I love this cat with all my heart, but he is seriously affecting my life at this point. I can't sit down and watch tv, I can't sleep unless I lock him in the room and then go upstairs and close my door.
The cat was really my dads. It was a stray that we adopted like 8 years ago. My dad passed away in August and the cat has been a nightmare. Like honestly, he doesnt provide any comfort, no relaxation, no sitting on my lap, no comforting each other. He just howls and screeches at all times of the day. He started losing his vision back before my dad died, and the howling started then. Hes on BP meds now and seems to have actually gotten a bit better, as hes moving around the house without bumping into stuff like before.
But the howling is honestly ruining my life. Im upstairs in the bathroom with IBS, in pain and just fucking done. And from upstairs in the bathroom, all I can hear is the cat downstairs howling. He has food, he has water, I clean his litter box 5 times a day. He doesn't want to sit with me, I try. He just wanders around the living room making noise. I give him good quality dry food, he has a plate full at all time. Clean water throughout the day and then I also give him about 1 can of wet food per day too. Half the time though, he just licks the gravy off the food then starts fucking HOWLING for more.. without eating the actual food.
The real issue here is that we are selling my father's house. I'm moving out. I can't afford my own place, so I will have roommates. No roommate on earth would put up with this. 2am I tried to watch a show last night, nope. 4:30am and I said ok finally, hes laying down somewhere, I'll watch it now. Nope. a 22 minute long tv show, I cant even finish a single episode without him having some sort of issue. Tonight it was 6pm when I was in the bathroom. I havent even been able to eat yet, and hes got me pulling my hair out from upstairs.
Its one thing when I can go upstairs and leave him shut in his room downstairs, but I wont have that luxury soon and there is absolutely zero chance that I could have him sleeping in my bedroom with me. It would never work and I'm afraid of what I would do after hes kept me up for the 20th night in a row, walking around howling and making noise all night. I feel like I'd probably just take him to the vet and have him put down and then regret it. Im not thinking clearly right now from the combination of grief from the loss of my dad, all the stress with everything involved and seriously only sleeping 3-4 times a week, for maybe 3 hours each.
I tell the cat I would be homless before I ever gave him up. But now that its actually becoming a real possibility...no, I would not be homeless for a cat. I would get rid of the cat. But who is going to adopt a ~15 year old, mostly deaf cat that is going blind? My dad would probably get up so upset if I gave him up or had him put down. I cant live like this any longer though
Im seriously losing my mind. Ive barely slept at all this week. I'll finally calm down enough to put my head down and close my eyes, and within 30 minutes, hes back up making all sorts of noises and looking for more wet food(gravy). I mean even children grow up and stfu after a while! Every time I try to sit down, right back up with another issue.
I dont want to give this cat up. He was my dads first pet and he loved him to death. They sat on the couch together every single night. The cat slept on his lap every night. I know that has a lot to do with it. He misses my dad. But I cannot be homeless because of a cat. I cant keep not sleeping because of this cat. Even just finding a place to live, checking off pet friendly removes about 90% of results. I honestly dont know what to do with him. I have a chronic disease and the stress and lack of sleep makes it 100x worse. Pets are supposed to relax us and enrich our lives. This cat is seriously making me hide in my bedroom and not want to come out. In a couple months, I will no longer have that luxury and I'll be in a position where roommates are giving me ultimatums to get rid of the cat or gtfo.
Sorry for the rant. Ive had no sleep again
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