Hi everyone! I think I just need some reassurance/advice on my current situation.
I’ll start off with some background. I adopted an 8-year-old cat in June. It took almost a month to adopt because so many shelters had restrictions on adopting out to students or outside of my area. Luckily I was able to find my future kitty! However, a few days after I got her, she got very very sick and passed away. She was my first pet and it was very heartbreaking for me. I still don’t really know what happened aside from the fact that her kidneys failed. One of the vets I reached out to said that she was likely already sick and the stress of a new environment caused her to deteriorate quickly. She wasn’t in contact with any toxins that could’ve caused an acute kidney failure. I was anxious right after adopting her, but I’ve always been anxious about change (taken years of counselling and medication to get to a reasonable level). But I felt like I had a right to be because she was so shy and got sick so quickly.
I decided to wait for a bit till I adopted another cat. I wanted to take the time to grieve my precious kitty’s loss, as well as adjust to my new school. When I felt ready about two weeks ago, I decided to put in an application for a 1-year-old kitty. However, he was adopted the next day. I was so frustrated and sad because of how long adopting my previous kitty took, I decided to put an application in for a 3-month old kitty. To preface this, I have been hesitant adopting one kitty because of the Single Kitten Syndrome. However, I only want one cat right now because I eventually plan to move in with my partner in a few years and he has two cats of his own. I also felt that because I’m doing class from home, I can give her the time and attention she needs. Pretty much right after I filled out the application, I got a call that I had been approved to adopt my new kitten. My partner was visiting and helped me adjust with her, and I didn’t feel super anxious while he was there. However, right after he left, I felt so overwhelmed. She seems so small and fragile. Will I be enough for her? I try to play with her, but she seems to have so much energy. Her meows make my heart ache. Is she missing her littermates? Is she lonely? I can’t play with her all the time, especially when I’m in class, so I give her toys to play with herself, but she still meows and tries to climb up on my laptop.
I haven’t been taking care of myself and my class work has been on the back burner. My anxiety prevents me from getting restful sleep and she gets kitten zoomies in the morning and wants to play so I can’t sleep in. I feel so anxious when I play with her wand toys, I can’t even have fun with her.
It’s been less than a week since I got her, so I know I need time to adjust. My family and my partner are super supportive and trying to help me relieve my anxiety, and my housemates check in on her when they get a chance. I feel like I maybe took on more than I can handle. Or maybe it’s the anxiety and I need to wait. I just feel so overwhelmed. Should I get another kitty, or will that increase my anxiety? Should I give her back? Or should I just wait this out a bit longer?
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