My boyfriend of 3 years and I moved in together very early on and got a dog about 2 years ago. This dog is like my child and I take him everywhere but work. My boyfriend also takes him around everywhere and shares the same love for him as I do!
About a week ago, an acquaintance I knew briefly from work mentioned to one of my other friends that she had to rehome her dog she had for 3 ½ years because she was pregnant (so sad). At first I shrugged this off, even though this dog was very cute, only to find out that she couldn’t find anyone to take him so she was going to drop him off at the pound. This made me so sick to my stomach so i mentioned to her that I would see if there was a day that worked out for me to bring the dog to my apartment to see if he got along with my other animals.
First day I brought him home he was so scared of strangers (like me and my bf) he ran away. I thought i was never going to find him. I called his owner and she said this has never happened before. She came to help me and we looked for 4 hours and by some miracle we finally found him a whopping 8 miles away from where I last saw him. This made me nervous, as my dog I could confidently trust to stay with me at all times even when off leash. What would I do if it happened again? Despite this, she came all this way to drop him off with me I kept him for the rest of the day as I just kept thinking about him being so scared of strangers, but being sent to the pound. So so sick to my stomach.
We had an okay first day. He marked a few things in our apartment but I can chalk that up to the fact that he is not neutered unfortunately, as this stopped after the first day. However, on top of not being neutered, I asked his owner for his vet paperwork to which she responded that he has NEVER been to the vet. I was in shock, no shots, no check up, nothing. What would I do if there was something wrong I can’t afford?? My boyfriend is nervous about the cost as well.
As days passed, a couple things developed, and some more things came into the picture. This new dogs started to get along with my own dog more, which was surprising as he did not seem too thrilled about him at first which I was so happy about! However, we also discovered that this dog also has a case of separation anxiety just like the dog I already had. This is not a great thing in an apartment, and they started to feed off each others anxiety.
It’s the end of the week and we love him so so much as he is a very good dog despite the traits and physical aspects he has no control over. He comes when he is called, he eats normally, does not get aggressive with our dog or cats, and loves us so much I can tell. The downside here is the financial commitment this brings, the time of training him not to mark, bringing a second dog everywhere with us, making sure he gets enough exercise, and All the supplies and vet care another dog brings. I am just so uncomfortable with changing my lifestyle right now as I work full time and am a full time student (as is my boyfriend). My boyfriend has made it clear that he does not feel he really has time for another dog and that if we decide to keep him that he will be mainly my responsibility.
One of my friends at work has offered to take him if it doesn’t work out with us, but we have already spent a week with him and he is so attached. I do not want to confuse him. This friend is also not home a whole lot and lives alone, I am also not around a lot but my boyfriend and I have alternating schedules and one of us is usually home. And lastly, he is friends with the dogs previous owner who Im scared he will let still come and see the dog, which sounds like a terrible way to transition him into a new home.
He is the sweetest dog who has shown nothing but love, affection, and excitement (after running away scared lol) toward us the last week we have had him, however I have two pangs in my stomach going opposite ways, one is sick about him leaving us now that he knows us and possibly going to the pound, and the other longs for the simpler time with me and my little family. My boyfriend is very confusing in this topic as he is very attached to this dog now as well, but has told me multiple times that he is unsure if keeping him is the right choice. I am also fearful of what effect this will have on our relationship, as we take our own dog pretty much everywhere and it thus prevents us from doing things like going out to dinner or doing fun activities. I need some advice or words of encouragement about what to do as I am so confused.
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