TLDR: just got a kitten and I’m not used to having to worry about someone else/“sharing” personal space and it’s giving me more anxiety. Anyone else felt like this after getting a pet?
I recently got a kitten. It’s been about two weeks and idk what I’m hoping to get from this post but I guess I’m just wondering if anyone’s felt the same way?
I thought about getting a kitten for a while. im talking may 2-3 years. I researched tons and was excited the whole way because I’m older and have my own apt and I’m finally ready for the commitment.
I was so excited literallt up until I stepped foot into my apt with him and freaked out? It’s not that I didn’t know a kitten would be a lot of work, in my head I knew that and I thought I well prepared for it but it still really hit hard.
I think a big part of that is my anxiety but also it’s just always been me for so long. I’ve always been only responsible for me and no one else. I’m not used to another living being “demanding” my attention. I’ve barely ever even dated (not that dating someone is demanding in general that’s just how it’s always made me feel so I avoided it). I’m didn’t think I’d be so freaked out about waking someone up when I go eat or use the bathroom. Just worry and constantly thinking about someone in a space that’s always been just mine and I’m not used to worrying about someone else whenever I leave the my apt.
My anxiety also just makes me overthink everything. Every sound the kitten makes, if he’s eating enough, is he sick/eating well, is he using the litter box enough, is he hurt/notfeeling well, etc. I worry about sleeping because as much as I kitten proofed, there’s only so much. What if I missed something and he chokes on something? What if he eats something he’s not supposed to when I’m sleeping? It’s just all these worries I’m not used to.
And please, before anyone jumps to say I don’t care, I care about him a lot. I can’t even imagine on going back on this decision. He’s well loved and cared for and spoiled to pieces (though I’m sure he hates me for having to give him medicine lol).
I’m definitely giving it time. I know two weeks is nowhere near enough and we’re both adjusting. Him more so than me and that’s why I feel so bad about feeling this way. He’s been more than great and I love him already with my whole being, in fact, I often think he deserves better than me because he’s such a great kitten and maybe he would’ve been happier in a home with other pets. I’m just not used to this and I’m wondering if I’ll ever get used to it. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Even if you haven’t, I’d love to hear your thoughts anyway.
Also: I did put in some thought on getting two kittens. I know that’s everyone’s advice and I really wanted to but I knew mentally I couldn’t handle two but I told myself if it came down to it and once we both settle into routine, I would but if I’m already feeling overwhelmed about one kitten, I couldn’t imagine myself doing this again.
If you’ve made it this far, thank you!
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