Before anyone starts judging me, I already feel terrible about this and am looking for help, not a chewing out.
I recently adopted a kitten. He's my first ever cat or pet and he's so sweet and loving and active. My sister was fostering him and his other two siblings before when I first saw him, I felt like I had bonded with him immediately, but as soon as I bring him home, I can feel my sis struggle with him because he is pretty aggressive and dominant cat as he was "bullying" my sis other cats. And he has separation anxiety which makes it pretty difficult because I have to go to work and school but I also don't want to bother my parents cuz they first told me not to adopt him and also I feel kinda jealous if my cat doesn't know I'm the owner and attach to my dad. He did things that will annoy me and he is very hyperactive and clingy. Sometimes when I only left for a short while(making breakfast or brush my teeth), he would cry and meow loudly behind the door, when I went back to my room, he quickly come close to me and meow for my attention while using his head to rub against my hand. I felt so bad for him and thinking am I not the right person to adopt and take care of him. Sometimes I even tell my bro that Idk why I feel like it is a regret to adopt him but it is also a bigger regret if I didn't adopt him, I ask my bro is it bad to think that I wish I never met him so that I wouldn't feel any regret at all. Maybe I felt a little overwhelm cuz I've never taken care of an animal before, and I don't know how to manage my time as I'm struggling with my mental health. He is kind of an unexpected thing that happen in my life where I was having plans to do other stuff. I love animals but I'm impatient. I also think that if I don't want him now, will my sis feel disappointed towards me? will my family think that I'm not serious about anything at all, but I sometimes also looking forward spend time with him in my future, so maybe is it because of my age? maybe cuz i didn't have enough to think about the consequences after adopting him? He is sleeping on my table right now btw
As I'm writing this, I realize that regret may not be the most accurate description of how I'm feeling. Maybe self-doubt? I don't know, but it feels awful and I feel guilty about these thoughts.
Can anyone relate? Any advice? Sorry if my writing is confusing xD
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