He had adopted a puppy just before we met and I completely fell in love with her. Then after a year of dating, we decided to get a second dog who is registered to me. Six months later, we break up but the relationship stays mostly good and we begin co-parenting. I move out, but stay in the neighbourhood. He starts dating someone new immediately and so we have a small village raising these pups. It’s good.
We explored all sorts of possibilities of what to do with the dogs, and agreed that splitting them up was not an option, and his work schedule, living and financial situation was much more conducive to raise them. I signed my dog over to him because the registration address needed to match the insurance. I regret doing that so much.
This has worked great until about last October when he moved 35 minutes away. This pretty much eliminates my casual midweek visits. I’m devastated but realize I still get to see them more than most parents do after divorces. So I made it work.
But, I don’t know what’s going on with him. He broke up with his gf of nearly 3 years and starts to hate on me quite a bit. We used to be such buds! I don’t know what changed! Every Friday is a struggle to make arrangements for me to pick up the dogs and I’m always anxious that he simply won’t answer the phone. He openly expresses how he hates both me and this arrangement.
Knowing he can take the dogs from me without recourse, I’ve tried to be as chill and friendly about all of this. I do my best to stick to the point and disregard the insults. And so far, I’ve still had access, but this Sunday when he got them, he said more serious than ever that it’s going to end soon and I need to start getting use to that.
I’m terrified about this. And the on-going, looming threat is cruel. These dogs are my life. I don’t have kids and prefer the dogs to most people. I spend so much time training them and taking care of them. They’re so incredibly smart and wonderful and funny. I just don’t know what I’d do if I lost them.
Legally, I don’t have a leg to stand on. I read an article last night that said judges don’t even want these sorts of things in the court room. I went back through all my texts to see if he made any sort of promise of sharing when we were getting along and there’s nothing. So civil court is out too.
I don’t know what to do. Has anyone else gone through this? Does anyone have any advice?
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