So we have a chihuahua who is around 11 years old and has a lot of trauma, she seems to hate men in general and I’ve been trying to win her over for over 8 months now. I’ve been as consistent as possible and have done everything possible to accomodate and love her. This isn’t my dog and I accept she won’t love me more than her owner (my partner) nor would I want that. However, I’m starting to get sick of the dog being so inconsistent and being loving for a very short period of time (a few hours to days) then acting like I’m the most evil person for a long period of time afterwards (weeks to months). She has tooth problems at the moment so I understand she’s in pain and crabby but this has been going on long before those issues. Partly, I know it’s my own frustration at myself and my own trauma causing these difficult feelings but that doesn’t make it any easier to deal with, especially as it’s been over 8 months since I started trying. I have sunk hundreds of dollars into trying various methods to help her but it seems that none of it is working. Just spent $70 on an adaptil collar so I’m hoping that helps but I’m not holding my breath. Every time she starts getting moody she won’t let me anywhere near her, won’t listen to me, actively runs away as though she’s terrified of me and bites if I try to pet her. I’ve never hurt her, apart for one time where she tried to bite me and I went to move my hand but she moved in the same direction and I managed to accidentally clip her. I’ve always been highly protective of her and it’s killing me that she sees me this way. Any suggestions of what I could try? Should I give up and just accept she’ll never really trust me?
I’ve tried the following: Various anxiety treats, Taking her for walks, Spending time with her with lots of petting (when she’s allowed it), Various essential oils (under the supervision of the vet)
I also initially made the mistake of pushing contact but once someone brought it to my attention that it was stressful for her I stopped doing this.
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