I love my roommate and we're on super good terms, we've never clashed about this at all but I can't help but wonder if that'll eventually happen. I'll probably delete this too eventually but anyways ...
Roommate is someone who's always in and out of the house, busy with whatever and it's totally fine. Moves around and travels a lot and has had multiple "guardians" over the years to take care of the 12 year old cat.
Through the pandemic, I ended up spending a LOT of time home, and essentially a lot of time to bond with the cat. There was a time when the cat ran out of food, roommate was out of town (this actually annoyed me, they left for two weeks and the cat ran out food days after) and without a second thought I bought her dry AND wet food.
The wet food became "a bit problematic" because the 12 year old cat had never really been properly fed. Straight up just given water and dry food (which isn't ideal, and I've taken long term care of cats before). But now she loves wet food, and is mad cute (and loud) when being fed.Roommate jokes about how the cat is now addicted to wet food, but that they'll never buy the cat wet food.
I can say that in the last 7 months of the cat living with us, they've only cleaned their litter box twice, 3 times max if anything. It's been a few days since i've let them know that we're out of litter, and i'm already expecting to buy some myself. Money has been an issue for all of us, and while i have some reservations about my roommate's spending habits, i'm okay with spending mine to take care of the cat.
I literally cannot help but just take proper care of the cat, and 100% of the responsibilities have fallen onto me. And while I absolutely have no problems with it, there's still that weird "final" discussion to be had about "ownership". Like i said, this isn't all that serious and my roommate and i love one another and are totally cool with the situation, and they've told me explicitly that i'm one of the cats guardians - the slight issue is that this happened out of neglect/necessity, neither of us asked each other for this if that makes sense. I didn't ask to take care of the cat (and while i LOVE to), they didn't ask me either.
for... the last ~3 months maybe, the cat has been sleeping in my room, there's a routine of me feeding cat in the morning and night. i brush and groom and generally just take care of the kitty.
I spent the weekend away and came back today and the cat legitimately showed some signs of separation anxiety, but also incredibly happy to see me. I can honestly say though that seeing their reaction made me sad thinking about if/when there's a time when my roommate decides to leave AND take the cat with them, or if they'll prefer that i take care of the cat -- because it really doesn't have to be confrontational, but more importantly I could honestly say that I fear the cat would actually suffer if I wasn't around. It's mainly why i'm writing this post, I would hate to say goodbye to a cat that by all means, has essentially "chosen me".
e. i can imagine the best course of action will be to just have a conversation with my roommate
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