Apologize for the long post in advance!
Little background:
My boyfriend (21m) and I (20F) have been dating for over a year, I live with him and his family. They have a 5 year old 150lb newfoundland lab mix (Tyson) and a 4 lb 10 year old yorkie (lola). Tyson is his dog, and Lola is his parents.
Our house has a separate porch / office area with a slider door (it's still inside) that we keep Tyson in most of the day, and we let him in the living room at night. We ALWAYS keep lola and tyson separate, as they both are aggressive towards each other.
Now, the first time I ever came over he bit my hand, not bad but enough to scare me enough to stay away from him the first couple weeks I started coming over. Over time, we got used to each other though and I am his momma now. I regularly take him outside by myself and feed him. Usually he is not aggressive towards me.
My boyfriend's brother's girlfriend (Tanya) on the other hand, he HATES her. She has been coming here for 8+ months and he still is not used to her, where with me he was chill after 2-3 weeks. She had tried to be cool with him a few times, even tried to pet him and he grabbed her twice, once broke skin (not badly, but enough to need a bandaid) she is now understandably afraid of him. Every time she even walks by the porch/office we keep him in, which is next to the kitchen, he goes insane. Not just a regular “I hear someone outside or see a squirrel” type of bark, it’s like an “i hate you and want to rip your head off” kind of bark.
My mom came over after coming up here to visit me for lunch one day, and when she came inside he was completely normal, no barking at all! I thought wow he's being so good, maybe he likes her and let him out of his room. Bad idea. He immediately went nuts and nipped my moms hand and grabbed onto her sleeve, and my boyfriend had to get him off of her. She wasn't hurt at all but shaken up which I 100% understand.
He is even sometimes aggressive with me and my boyfriend. Today, which is not the first time this has happened, he was in the living room with me and I was laying on the couch. He gets super angry with me that I won't let him sit on the couch with me (there's 2 in the living room, he can go on the other one) and will bark at me, growl in my face and snarl at me. Which is pretty scary considering how giant he is and i'm laying right next to him at eye level. I put him in his room and told his parents we shouldn't let him in the living room anymore, but they undermine me all the time and do so anyways.
I hate to say this - but I am tired of him. I do love him and he can be super cute and funny, but its not worth it anymore. My boyfriend and his family never did a great job training him, so its not his fault hes like this. They had him in a behavioral school and he got kicked out because of how stubborn and what an asshole he is. I feel lost, especially because whenever I talk to my boyfriend about it all he does is defend the dog. I understand, because it's his and he had him since he was a puppy, but there has to be a line. I have had 3 AMAZING rat terriers who were the best trained dogs, never gave you any issues. I can't stand this dog anymore, it's more trouble than he is fun. Not to mention we are now trying to get approved for an apartment, there are few places that will accept him and I'm going to constantly be worried about him going after a stranger or their dog if they're too close. I wanted to get a small dog like another rat terrier or a corgi, but I don't trust him around one. I don't know what to do. I don't want to euthanize him, and I think my boyfriend would be hurt if I even brought that up. I won't even be able to have anyone come visit in my new apartment, because there's less space and he wont have a room like the porch to lock him in when he's being an asshole. Also don't think we would even be able to manage to get him into a crate, it's hard enough to get him to go into his room now with treats and he's too big and aggressive to force him.
If anyone could help with some advice, whether it's to help him or any kind of solution I would appreciate it. I also just needed to vent because I feel bad venting to my boyfriend about how much I dont like his dog.
Thanks.
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