Hi, so recently I adopted a new cat. About 6/mo old, orange tabby, male. I know I’m sort of jumping the gun here but he seems very attentive and hyper, just not cuddly or affectionate in any way even though he seems to have adjusted pretty fast. He doesn’t try to hide or anything, he hasn’t bit or scratch us once, and he’s doing his own thing. Again it’s only been a bit so I would not know his full personality but something tells me he won’t be a lap cat or very affectionate even later in life. This morning he woke me up by meowing very loud so I tried to ignore it to not encourage the behavior but it’s been happening for a while now and I’m losing sleep. It’s less like a bonding connection and more like having a guest in the house, a hyperactive, indifferent guest. I don’t find the joy I usually have in being near animals around him.
At the adoption place I saw this dog that I immediately had a connection with and loved on sight. However I adopted this cat because I have struggled with mental health, and wanted a companion animal that was mostly self sufficient with help from me when it needs it. I thought it’d be fine, I am aware cats show love differently and I had researched and believed a cat to be perfect, no matter how much I have instant love for dogs. But I think I’ve made a mistake in which animal I’ve adopted. More and more I feel like I’d rather be going on walks and playing with an animal that shows loyalty and love rather than one who is occasionally cuddly, mostly indifferent, and can be an annoyance based on how it’s feeling. I know it’s contradictory but since I was little I’ve been wanting a companion animal and compared to when I’ve stayed over at relative/friend’s houses and bonded with their dogs, I feel substantially less of a connection with this cat and many in general.
I think this is sort of rare, but are there any other first time cat owners who felt the same and felt more inclined to dogs? Or did you grow into loving your cat and vice versa as it adjusted to you? I feel horrible for thinking this and I don’t want to rehome this cat or return him to the shelter but I just have this feeling that adopting a cat was a mistake. Any advice or experience would be appreciated.
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