Previously posted in r/cats, posting here for more feedback!
So I posted here a few months ago for advice on leaving my cat (a gift from someone who didn’t take our personalities into account) who has lived in the family home for 5 years while I’ve gone to college and live off/on at home. Through the past five years shes built a bond with my dad, but honestly doesn’t seem to really love any of us. My dad is the one person she’ll sit with and let pet her without any hesitation. She lets my sister and mom pick her up sometimes. And she lets me play with her and pet her, but not pick her up. (Editing to add she only lets me hold her if I’m on the toilet or the floor of the bathroom, she will scratch at the door to come in if I’m in there) She can be extremely skittish, and does this horrible sad meow when she feels trapped. She got on okay with our other pets, but for the most part was antisocial and liked to spend her days under our beds or on a windowsill behind a curtain.
When I posted before, EVERYONE suggested leaving her at home with my parents, where she felt comfortable. even though she wasn’t super in love with my family, she enjoyed her home and had her own spaces. Unfortunately, 5 days before the move our dog died unexpectedly leaving her as the sole pet (our other cat died a year prior). This was a big change in our house, and 3 months later after I had already moved cross country leaving her there, they got a new puppy. This was a quick decision and they didn’t take my cats reaction into consideration at all. They assumed because she got along with our last dog these two would be fine, but a puppy and an old lady are very different.
She HATES the puppy. They didn’t introduce them properly, and it’s been a mess ever since (2 weeks). My cat has spent most of her time hiding upstairs, and in the few times she’s been on the same level of the house as the puppy, she’s peed on the new carpet and been hissing/doing a scary angry meow. I’m home for a few days for Easter, and I can tell she’s a ball of anxiety.
As soon as I saw her I began thinking about bringing her back to my new home with me, a 10 hour drive to an apartment half the size of my families house. My boyfriend is completely on board, and we’ll do whatever it takes to make her comfy in our apartment, we just don’t know if it’s the right choice for HER and her happiness. This would be a big change in size of her home, but there are tons of windowsills and a bed to hide under. We’d also have to take her on a car ride for the first time in years. She also would be away from my dad who’s the one person she’s been consistent with for years. I wish my parents had waited to get a puppy but there’s nothing I can do to change that.
So I need help, what should we do? Can we fix this anger she has towards the puppy? How do we get her to not pee on the floor out of stress? Am I making her miserable and just need to rehome her?
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from Pets https://www.reddit.com/r/Pets/comments/mikw1m/i_really_need_advice_move_cat_across_country_or/
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