So I guess as a backstory I grew up with a cat (Frisbee) that I begged my parents to get me. He’s great and amazing and still with us. He’s 15 and is FIV+. I grew up, and graduated college last May. He didn’t come with me to college and he’s stayed with my parents the entire time. I got a full time job and moved 15 hours from my parents. The last 5 years have been great but the one thing that has absolutely sucked is not having him or a pet with me. It’s not really an option for him to move in with me, as I don’t want to put him through that as he’s as much my family’s cat as he is mine.
I’ve been interested in adopting a cat for some time now but I’ve been more serious about it recently. Is it bad that I feel guilty about getting a cat that isn’t him? My family would have probably gotten him a friend at some point but since he has FIV that wasn’t really an option. I guess it’s the feeling that I’d essentially have two cats when I’ve never had two before because of that. But I almost feel like I’d be betraying him?
My second reservation about getting a cat is that I do tend to like to go places a lot. I’ve been gone for full weekends camping and already have a couple week long trips I have planned coming up. I know cats are independent and that we’ve left Frisbee alone for a weekend with extra food and he’s been fine. I planned on getting a young adult cat (like 1-3 years old) instead of a kitten to help with this. I wouldn’t want a kitten alone for a weekend, but an adult would be better. Is this a good thought process to have? If I just wait until I don’t have big trips/events planned then I might be waiting for a long time as new things are always popping up. I don’t want to make the cat feel like I’ve abandoned him/her and I don’t want to feel tied down because of it.
A third reservation is my girlfriend also wants a cat and I’m not sure how it would go if we eventually got married (like we planned on doing lol) with introducing the two cats together. Like would a cat that the shelter/foster says isn’t great with other cats be able to be wooed into bonding with another cat?
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from Pets https://www.reddit.com/r/Pets/comments/mjjva6/looking_at_adopting_a_cat_but_i_have_a_few/
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