My boyfriend and I adopted a kitten that is now 8/9 months old. We thought she was 8 weeks old when we got her, but our vet said she was more like 6 when she had her first appointment. Obviously we were pretty upset that she was younger than she should’ve been, but we tried to compensate for it. She has really blossomed into a beautiful young kitty, but she has a problem with biting. Mostly with me, and I have no idea why.
An example: today I was lounging on the breakfast booth scrolling through my phone, and my kitten comes up and slaps my face and bites my arm, out of the blue. My friend found it funny, but I was pretty upset.
My boyfriend gets bit, but only playfully. When he comes home, he gets cute meows, affectionate rubs on his legs, she cuddles with him, she loves pets from him, just loves him in general and it shows. I try to pet her and she gets riled up and wants to play. I don’t get meows or anything. She loves on our roommates too (like right now she’s giving my best friend cuddles and cute little purr-meows).
I have been her primary caretaker. She needs medicine, I give it to her. She needs her nails trimmed, I trim them. Litter box cleaning, brushing, bathing, playing, treats, everything is pretty much my job. My boyfriend does what he can, but he usually works longer hours than I do so I’m home more. I do so much for her, and it honestly breaks my heart that she wants nothing to do with me, unless it’s playtime. I can’t say I never get cuddles, but it is EXTREMELY rare.
I don’t abuse her, I don’t do anything outside of her care and TRYING (but failing) to love on her. I have tried everything my friends/family have suggested, but it just doesn’t work. I really don’t know what I can do, and I’m kinda desperate. I have been pretty depressed that my fur child seems to dislike me, and it makes it worse to not even know what I’m doing wrong. She gives love to everyone else, it seems, and I’m really envious.
This is has been a really night and day experience than my last cat. My previous cat was literally the best. I never had biting issues with her, she adored me and I her. Wherever I went, she was at my heels. I guess I just really really miss the emotional support I got from her, and when our current kitty does things like slap me, it makes me miss her even more. I know I shouldn’t compare them, and I know she was 12 and our current cutie is still a kitten so she’s insanely playful... but when I see my boyfriend or best friend all kinds of affection, I can’t help but be jealous. The boyfriend rubs it in sometimes too, thinking he’s funny, but I just end up crying.
I love her so much and consider her my furry child, and it really hurts that she doesn’t want to love on me too. Just bites me a lot (which could cause issues since I have a compromised immune system).
Is there anything I can do to try and fix the biting or disconnect with me? I’m open to suggestions. I can give more information if needed, I’m just at a loss here. If not to feel affection for me, I want to at least stop the biting. However, I don’t know what to do since everything I try to do to train her, she thinks I’m playing or something and it doesn’t really work. I really need help ;3;
I’m sorry if I’m whiny, I’m just really upset. I’ve been having a really hard time lately, and I could really use some kitty loves ;3;
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