Sorry this might be long.
So, I have two cats, both whom I love and adore with all my heart and would do anything for. My first cat, Nubi, who is almost 6, I took care of when no one else wanted her. She was a kitten, so I did my best when it came to vet visits, playtime, watching her, just overall being there for her when my parents were so "eh" about her in the beginning. As time progressed, she gradually got closer to my parents (who are such the opposite of me and don't bombard her with affection) and of course, they got closer to her too. So now, they're bonded much more so than her and I (she bites me more, doesn't cuddle me anymore, etc) and that hurt me a lot.
I then ended up adopting another cat at 2 months old, mostly to keep my oldest company as we'd all be home late due to work and such. She was a handful, but omg she was so sweet and adorably affectionate. I finally thought, okay, now I have "my" own pet; since my parents had my oldest. It's been two years since I've adopted her, and things took an interesting turn in terms of her behavior.
The youngest, Luna, doesn't come to visit me as often anymore. She doesn't sleep on my bed anymore, hardly ever shows up near my door (even though it's almost always open) but instead, now visits my older sister. I see her all cuddled up on my sister's bed, making biscuits or idk always something cute and adorable with her. And every time I see Luna or Nubi with my sister or with my parents, I honestly die a little inside. I know I must seem to be overdramatic, but I just feel so lonely and heartbroken at times because I also want to be loved like them and shown that love.
I've read that it's best just to give them space, and they'll come to you. It's so hard for me, because playing cold has never been my strong suit. I love so hard, and it honestly sucks because I feel like all the love I give turns them away. I'm not overly aggressive with them---I give them kisses, sometimes belly rubs (regrettably) , feed them, take them to their vet visits, etc. I am not home a lot though, given I'm always at work or school and maybe they sense that? Maybe they know I'm not home a lot so they just are turned off by me? How do I get my cats to like me again? How do I show them I'm worth loving? I know, again I sound crazy. I just feel so sad that the rest of my family don't have to do much to gain their affections. I get so envious. And petty. And my family always say, "don't be jealous, don't worry they love you too" but it's easy for them to say when they're the ones gaining the love.
I just feel honestly alone. I love them so much, but I feel like they'd be better off if they stayed here with them, if I were to ever move out. Sorry, I'm ranting. Have any of you ever felt this way about a pet? Maybe I should've been more of a dog person ... I think I wouldn't have as hard of a time now as I am.
TLDR; Upset my two cats whom I raised since kittens don't come to me anymore (mostly other family members).
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