i have a 5 year old male cat (neutered ) hes always been the kind of cat that is "pet me only when I want it and if you do it more than what i want ill bite" or along the lines of that, hes always been a bit kind of paranoid?? we've taken him to the vet and we think he has a little bit of PTSD regarding his life as a kitten, (the vet described him some medication but it actually seemed to agitate him more so the vet and i decided to take him off it for a bit)
but i've always been his favorite human, i adopted him, i took care of him, id pet him, pick him up, (which he doesnt really like but 'allows'/'contempt' with me doing it) and never treated anyone in my family like that. i kind of was taking pride in the fact that you could tell i was his obvious favorite, because its true i love him so much, and i understand he can be a little mean sometimes because of his past.
recently i've gone off for college (abroad )and been away for almost 3 years, with the exception of coming back for a month around my college breaks (like christmas, spring break, etc) and everytime i come back he seems more agitated and mad at me...
the last time i visited home which was earlier this year (spring break) he was constantly spraying in my room, i'd never fully punished him (besides making him stop if i saw him doing so of course) but tried to comfort and make him feel relaxed since im sure he was just feeling confused.
however this time, (christmas break) he like actually hates me. for the first time in literally ever he hisses at me and gets his tail all fluffed up if i even say his name and he huffs at me. im trying not to take it too personally since im sure its hard on him with it seeming like i left him (i live at my parents house so the only difference is just me being gone) but this has just been happening for quite some time since i left im worried he might hate me forever...
i try and give him space, play with him, not get too close, but literally if i happen to just glance at his direction by accident he gets super mad and hisses at me (and generally avoids me except he constantly wants to come in my room- which i let him unless i can tell hes about to spray and then i go towards him and he usually leaves)
sorry for this long post but im just really sad because i love him so much and everywhere i look i just see "they'll get over it in time" but i worry about him and i just dont want him to be super stressed or upset with my presence...
I graduate in the spring of 2020 so ill be home for good then, and consistently (obviously) since im not planning on moving out ANY time soon but still... i just worry for my baby boi :(
any suggestions on how to deal with it?? or is it something truly that will get better with time? i just feel like hes gonna hate me forever
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