I want to start by saying I don’t hate dogs at all and I don’t want to hate this dog. I grew up with very well trained and well mannered dogs. I also worked at an animal shelter for 4 years so my experience with dogs is very high. I’m going to write this post in bullet points because I’m not good with grammar and that’s the easiest way to organize my thoughts and get them out clearly. - my boyfriend got his dog about year before he met me. He didn’t rescue because he needed a hypoallergenic dog due to his girlfriend at the time so he purchased from a breeder. He told me he got a dog as a substitute for getting on medication to cope with his anxiety and depression. He also had his parents buy the dog for him and his parents still pay for all the dogs food and vet appointments. This was his first dog and he didn’t do any research about the breed he was getting and he ended up with a really hyperactive breed. - When he first got the dog he joined a training group but quit very quickly because he didn’t like the trainer. - His dog doesn’t know any other command other than sit. He tried to teach the dog “down” and the dog stubbornly will only go halfway down. He also gave up on teaching the dog down. He was teaching the dog a new command at my request. Like I said I grew up with well trained dogs and my boyfriends dog is a highly intelligent breed. - This dog definitely thinks he’s the boss of the house. He growls when he’s moved off furniture or moved into a different position. He dash’s into rooms before anyone else can enter. My boyfriend lets the dog walk him and pull on the leash instead of walking the dog. The dog stares into eyes for a very long period of time. The dog also will just stand on top of my boyfriend and also whine and paw at him to get up on his lap when he’s sitting at the table. Because I know a lot about dog behavior I know these are all red flags about a dogs position in the pack. I don’t think he should even be allowed on furniture because of his growling and also partly because he brings his gross dog spit covered toys up on the bed and couch and I simply think that’s gross. But the bigger reason is because of the growling. - This dog whines a lot. Whenever he’s not getting attention or if he’s bored. - The dog attacks doors. When you move a door or Shut it the dog runs and attacks the door. I’ve actually been bitten twice by the dog due to me closing a door. Both time where at the bathroom door which I prefer closed. Luckily both times I’ve been bitten weren’t enough to draw blood but the dogs still willing to bite me which is a red flag. - The dog has no set feeding times. My boyfriend just leaves food out for him all day to eat whenever he wants. The dog is a healthy weight and size so that’s not the issue. The issue for me is this just another thing that the dog gets whenever he wants. I feel like the dog gets whatever he wants whenever he wants. - When I’m in the other room the dog has to run in every few minutes to “check on me”. I’m honestly not sure what the dog is doing when he does this but I just find it annoying. - I never get alone time with my boyfriend because the dog is always following him around. And because the dog is allowed on furniture Everytime I’m cuddling my boyfriend and sitting with him the dogs also cuddling my boyfriend and sitting with him. I know this is partly a dog thing but I’m sick of it. - The dog tries to run out of the house almost Everytime we leave and gets aggressive and snippy when we put him back into the house. Leaving the house can be such a process because the dog with try to dash out as soon as we open the door. When we pick up the dog and put him back in the house he freaks out and starts growling and getting snippy. This is another thing that I feel shows the dog thinks he’s entitled. - My boyfriend has serious anxiety regarding the dog. He often asks me “is the dog okay” when I’m home and he’s not or “did the dog run out” like we wouldn’t notice if the dog ran out. He also feels the dog all over for bumps and there have been time where he thought normal things where something wrong and had him taken to the vet. He’s had the dog taken to the vet for very minor cuts. One time the dog had a small bump on him shortly after he got a shot at the vet and my boyfriend while looking the dog over for bumps was like “oh my god I think it’s a tumor” and he called the vet and the vet said that was definitely where the dog just got his shot. This is all stupid to me because 1. It shows my boyfriend can’t handle owning a dog. 2. This dog was supposed to be his “medication” for things like anxiety. He also doesn’t have this kind of anxiety with our cat. One time our cat had a puking everyday problem I was concerned with and my boyfriend barely showed concerned so I pointed out that he would be freaking out if this was his dog and he started going off on having a special attachment to the dog. And I just thought of it as unfair.
I feel like most of these issues can be fixed with basic training and no longer letting the dog on furniture, not letting him pull on leash, not letting him get food whenever he wants(scheduled feeding times, and not letting him dash into rooms before us. But I’m so scared to bring the up to my boyfriend. I’ve tried in the past and he simply doesn’t get it and the dog has become such a hot spot for him because he knows I don’t like the dog anymore. I feel like the dog is now making me like my boyfriend so much less. My boyfriend is amazing and loving in every other way and this is the only issue we have so I feel like if I left him I could be throwing something good away. Am I just an A-hole?
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