Backstory
My fiancé adopted his dog, a Weimaraner, in his Sophomore year of college a year before we met. He lived in a small apartment with two roommates so it was not the ideal time to get a dog.
When I met my fiancé I was a bit afraid of the dog because he is huge and I had never been around big dogs. I adjusted to the dog fairly quickly after learning how sweet he was. He was large but not completely full grown and did not know how to bark.
I moved in with my then boyfriend very soon after beginning to date him and started taking care of his dog full time as he worked 10-12 hour days. I didn’t mind too much and began to like the dog a bit. He became very attached to me a constantly wanted to cuddle. Things were ok for about a year.
When the dog was around 2.5 he began to cause problems. He was way too big for the apartment, he barked often, and I felt like his primary caretaker. Also around this time I got a kitten and fell in love with her. I’ve never been a dog person, always a cat person, but never had the chance to have my own cat until then. The dog and the cat get along fine but now that I have a cat I realize just how much I don’t like the dog.
My fiancé and I moved into a bigger apartment complex, just the two of us, which I hoped would resolve the dog situation. It hasn’t. My fiancé and I are both very busy people however I am now the one working the 10 hour days. The problem is that when I’m gone my fiancé wants to play video games and locks the dog up in the crate (I don’t blame him the dog gets in front of the tv). But he doesn’t take the dog out to play, only go to the bathroom. The dog has way to much energy and is IMMENSELY clingy. I don’t want to deal with it when I get home. So here we are I can’t stand the dog and my fiancé won’t give him the care he needs. I think my fiancé even likes our cat better but won’t admit it to himself.
Side note: in less than a year fiancé and I are moving cross country into a TINY one bedroom. I don’t think that this will be good for the dog especially because we will both be working full time. I also don’t think that I can personally handle living in such close quarters. Not to mention the dog is well over the 50lb weight limit of most apartment complexes and will make our apartment search significantly more limited.
What is your opinion? Is keeping the dog cruel to him (and me)? Or should we trek cross country with him (and I need to just suck it up)? How do I talk to my fiancé about how I feel about the situation (he brushes me off because he knows I don’t like the dog)?
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from Pets https://www.reddit.com/r/Pets/comments/d7qjh4/a_college_mistake_advice_wanted/
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