I just need some support. Please be gentle. I am absolutely beside myself with sadness.
I have had my cat for ten years, since she was an “8 week old” kitten (I am not convinced that she was actually younger and from a litter that was taken too early from their mother). She had always been an absolute doll with me, but was super attached to me and no one else. She was just either completely uninterested and hid from them or slightly hissy and/or aggressive.
We have been through a lot together, and quite a bit of chaos together as well. She stuck by my side through two incredibly physically/mentally abusive relationships, one of my exes I am pretty positive also had to have abused her at one point or another while I was at work because that is really when things changed.
I am now in a very healthy, loving marriage with a man who did everything he possibly could have to get this cat to love him back. Always sweet to her, patient, just wanted to love on her—but she wouldn’t let him. She would growl and hiss at just the sight of him, act completely terrified...and then the attacks started. She would jump out at him from under the bed where she hides all day when he would walk by and bite him, she tried attacking my grandmother and blocked her in a bedroom for a prolonged period of time (she was too afraid to try to leave again), and any time someone came to our home she would dart out at them and hiss and growl and try to lunge at them, try to bite them. She has drawn blood on my husband on multiple occasions and I have gotten caught in the middle more than once.
I am 27 weeks pregnant and have been very concerned with how she would be with our newborn. I don’t want to find out the hard way. I have a very strong attachment to her for the love she showed me for a very long time so I was holding out as long as possible to bring her to a no kill shelter. I got the point, however, where I knew it just wasn’t fair to my husband anymore. He and my son are obviously a million times more important to me than any animal ever could be. I had to be honest about her behavior to the shelters of course and none of them would agree to take her, she is too much of a risk to the other cats and they have deemed her to be “unrehomeable”.
Her attacks have gotten significantly worse in the last week. She will draw blood, she is hurting herself, her pupils are incredibly dilated, her fur is always puffed out, she growls and hisses more often than not, she just acts like she is flat out terrified all the time. Medications have never seemed to help, nor have at home remedies or holistic approaches. The vet believes that she is mentally ill and that this will only escalate further, that her quality of life right now is next to nothing because she is scared all the time and in her own world of terror. He suggests putting her down and I have been breaking down all day. I am struggling with knowing her fate while she remains clueless to it all. I am worried that I didn’t do enough for her. I know I can’t keep her either way because of the baby and my husband, but I am just beside myself with sadness over this. She has been by my side through so much, good and bad, and I feel like I am failing her.
Honestly I just had to write this to get it off my chest and hopefully to find any kind of support possible. This has been harder than I could have ever imagined. I just want to cry. I feel like I’ve done her wrong by having her around abusive people when I felt completely trapped and was being severely abused myself, and now by having few options for her. I feel like I didn’t do enough, and I hate knowing what is coming. I’m just...at a loss.
TL;DR my cat has completely lost control over her aggression. Shelters won’t take her, medications (etc) don’t help, and the vet believes that the only true option is euthanasia. I am a mess.
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