my partner and i just adopted a cat about three weeks ago. my partner has had cats before and i've lived with them and really liked them, so this felt like the right thing to do. our cat is...temperamental, but it seems to only be with me. he'll come up to me and ask for pets (which i gladly give) and then try to bite me. i've learned to read his body language so i can tell when he's getting over stimulated, so i stop to not aggravate him. that's helped a bit, but sometimes he'll just come up on the couch and try to bite me for no reason, even if im not petting him or touching him.
he loves my partner though and will snuggle in his arms or lap all the time and even lay on his clean laundry on the floor. it just makes me feel like he doesn't like me and the more he tries to bite me (its never hard and he never breaks skin) the more hesitant i am to want to pet him. i feed him, i play with him, i buy him toys, and i do still pet him, whenever he asks.
my partner is disappointed because he really feels like i don't like our cat. i do like him! but i feel like he doesn't like me and it makes me feel bad. and i'm also disappointed because he's my first pet and i've lived with cats before that were so friendly and warm, i guess that's what i thought it was going to be. idk, am i doing something wrong? should i readjust my expectation and just accept this is how it will be? i want to be obsessed with him and love him like i love my partners moms cat but im finding it hard to be because im so wary he's going to try and bite me at any given time.
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