I did not want a dog. Did not want the responsibility or the extra work. I work 6 days a week, opposite schedule from my bf, and I have my 3 year old daughter to take care of during the day before work.
Ever since we bought our house, my boyfriend has been begging for a dog. I told him no for a long time. And then I laid down ground rules if we were to get one. I didn’t think it was fair that he will never have a dog the rest of his life, after growing up always having one, just because I don’t want one.
My ground rules were that I couldn’t afford to, so I didn’t want to be responsible for any of the dogs upkeep costs. Food, vet appointments (unless it was an emergency). Just all of the normal day to day things. I didn’t want to be responsible for figuring out how to train her. He acted as though he had that all under control. I’d definitely carry through with the training, but I’ve only had one dog in my entire life. She’d growl and nip at my dad who was paralyzed in a wheel chair but nobody believed me, and my dad couldn’t talk to tell anyone. Finally 3 days before 6th grade, the dog attacked my face and I needed 40 stitches. That was my one and only dog. So I don’t know anything about having one.
We have a side door that goes into our basement or our kitchen, it has a half door so we can just close her in on the landing instead of crating her. But she’s there all of the time.
My daughter is playing play doh in the living room. Literally cannot happen while the dog is out. Before that she was eating breakfast. Can’t do that when the dogs out. When I’m done posting this, she will get in the bath and the dog can’t be out during that bc she can knock open any door, bardge in and jump in the bath. Then we are going to go to the store. Dog will chew up everything we own while I’m gone, so she will have to be locked up. When my daughter and I get home, before work I will have to feed my daughter lunch and vacuum, and the dog can’t be out for either of those things. She already broke a $200 vaccuum biting at the chords while I was using it. Not to mention she pissed on herself, and I don’t have the time or willpower (then my daughters going to want to play in the hose and I don’t want to start that argument bc we don’t have time today) to bathe her.
So basically she will be crated since last night before we went to bed til my bf gets home tonight.
She gets into the trash can continuously. I kind of freaked out on my bf because everyday he walks by piles of trash when he’s hurrying off to work, and when I wake up I have a huge mess with ants to clean. Never has he thought to upgrade to a dog proof can.
It’s very hard for me to get the dog to do anything. She eats anything I leave on my counters or sinks. She can get into cupboards, open bedroom doors. She won’t go to the landing when I need to leave for work so I designate 20 minutes to yell and throw whatever food on the floor I can to get her down there. I have depression and anxiety and this triggers me greatly. I’m 90lbs she’s already bigger than me.
I’m still paying on my tv stand that has been chewed. 2 area rugs aren’t “ruined” but have stains and runs in them. I only have my work shoes now bc the dog has eaten ever pair of shoes, literally, that I own. Another promise was my bf would pay for anything damaged and he always turns it into it’s my fault I didn’t put whatever away and I’m materialistic for caring so much.
I obviously don’t want the dog. My bf said he is going to take a day off work next week to get her fixed and that should help. But getting her fixed doesn’t mean she will automatically start following commands and stop behaving badly.
He said if that doesn’t work, a shock collar is next. I don’t think I agree with this. I think the first step (obv need to get her fixed regardless) would be to not get a dog if you work 60 hours a week and have a full list of things to do after work and on the weekends. He has taken this dog for a walk 3 times since March, all the same week he bought the leash. Now it’s not ever mentioned.
It’d be nice to have a dog I can walk. But with a 3 year old and a dog, both defiant as F, no way.
I don’t know what to do. I tried to sit him down last night and it was so borderline to an argument, when he said it’d get better after we fixed her I just said okay.
I feel like I am abusing this animal with how much I yell at it and keep it locked up. Her being locked up and her being out both make my anxiety flare.
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