Am I delusional for asking my boyfriend to not let his dog sleep in our bed?

Hi friends,

so just a little back story to it all: my boyfriend has a 12 year old dog which he spent the whole dogs life with. They seemed to have gone through thick and thin and the dog means a lot to him.

Now, dont get me wrong, I am not a dog hater and I consider myself animal friendly, birds and parrots - these shitheads I love the most - dogs on the other hand are not my favourite pets but I accept and tolerate them. I am a bit shy with stranger dogs but I can get warm with dogs.

My boyfriends dog seems... well, special to me. She is very vocal, very needy and has little to no feeling for togetherness of two human beings.

As said, I am mostly okay with that. But now that we plan to move in together in a new flat I hoped to let some things change. Well... Just one thing: I dont want the dog to sleep in our bed anymore.

I am absolutely aware of how difficult it is to train a dog to not sleep in the human bed anymore after 12 years or so. But I have very light sleep. Especially movements in the bed and also deep frequenced sounds and noises can keep me awake the whole night. I dont mind not sleeping too much but having important/long days at uni and work can drive me absolutely insane without enough sleep.

I tried to communicate this to my boyfriend especially after the last weekend (there was a mouse in my boyfriends flats wall and the dog kept being nervous and aware on the human bed, quiet but hearable barking and air snapping. when I tried to make her sleep in her own bed - yes she has one but never sleeps in it - my boyfriend ignored my wishes and let her back to our bed) but he insists that this is not changeable, they are both used to it, he cant change his sleeping habits but requests me to work on my sleeping habits.

Now, I am not here to hear comments about my boyfriend. i mostly want to know if i am overreacting and if it is even possible to train the dog to sleep in her own bed after 12 years of sleeping in a human bed?

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