Family gave dog to sisters ex BF. Now my family refuses to get him back :(

Hi,

So, this isn’t 100% about the dog, but the way my family has so far raised him. I’m not sure if this belongs here but, I’m not sure where else to ask.

Basically, about 3 years ago, my mother & sister impulsively decided to adopt a rescue dog from Mexico. At the time, I was a bit iffy on the idea because I just knew given their personalities they would not properly take care of this dog. We, at the time, had a shih tzu, and she is extremely low maintenance. However, this dog was a lab x hound (we don’t really know exactly which breed), which would mean he needs constant exercise & proper training. Now, I was obviously in love with him when he came home, and have been since, however he has some behavioural issues. He’s well trained with people he KNOWS, but is very territorial and not stranger friendly, which is why I say it’s a behaviour problem.

Nonetheless, I think this is a socializing issue. Why? Because of complete laziness on my family’s end. They didn’t properly train him, they don’t walk him (I’m the only one that does) and whenever I ask them to I get a fucking mouthful of abuse & constant remarks that I’m getting “triggered” or “starting a fight when I can just walk him”, which I do as mentioned beforehand. But, because of his behaviour issue, the past year we’ve had contractors in & out of the house. So, my family basically decided that it was okay to dump him at my sisters ex boyfriends house in the meantime. Don’t get me wrong, he’s great with dogs & has another lab as well, but over time, he’s been gone in longer intervals etc. Now, the bathroom has been finished, and it’s been a month since I’ve seen the dog. I ask my sister to grab him from his house & she immediately attacks me, “you can do it”. Unfortunately my entire family has this view that if I want him I go get him.

It breaks my heart. Her friends come over all the time now, my mom just works, my brother could give less of a fuck. I live at home (25 year old, student) in the basement suite & I have a cat which I’ve had for 14 years. I would take the dog with me but after trying the two animals do not get along at all.

My poor Maximus is clearly being neglected, and my family is okay with just dumping him & their responsibilities as dog owners to the ex boyfriend. Numerous times I’ve said “just give the dog to him, he takes better care of him anyways” & the freak outs are insane. Classic narcissists that can’t admit they’re wrong but they don’t realize this is a living creature they’re fucking with.

Now, I’m left with a decision. Do I go get him today from the ex boyfriend that doesn’t respond to my texts? Or do I just wait, and leave him there knowing he’s being treated well, and not knowing when my sister/mother will decide to go fucking get him.

Again, if this doesn’t belong here I apologize, just sucks seeing a classic case of people wanting a puppy, but not willing to raise him even when it gets tough & he gets a little older.

Cheers

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