Over 4 years ago my boyfriend and I were talking about wanting a cat. I wanted to hold off because I felt we couldn't afford things like vet visits. He ended up bringing home kittens one day anyway - 2 first and then later a 3rd.
Despite being against getting them, I fell in love with them and they became our family.
Fast forward to now: the relationship has been deteriorating (bf abusing drugs, stealing money from me, and getting aggressive). I knew I needed to leave and quickly. I told him last week. I figured I would take the cats because I am better able than him to support them financially (although still struggling unfortunately) but he was adamant that if I was leaving I did not get to take them with me. So I ended up making my peace with this and putting a deposit down for a place available sooner (November) where I cannot bring the cats with me.
Now he's telling me I need to take the cats with me. I told him I can't anymore and if he can't take care of them I will try to find new homes for them. But he's telling me that's cruel of me to do that to them, and that I should write off my deposit and find a different place where I can bring them with me. Otherwise I'm prioritizing myself over them. I don't know if he's right about this. Emotionally, I hate to lose them, but practically, I know keeping them would be such a financial strain. And I don't know how hard rehoming is on cats at this age.
TL;DR: Should I do whatever I can to avoid rehoming my cats who have bonded with me for 4 years despite it meaning I'm losing a rental deposit and can't afford vet trips, emergencies, etc?
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