Using a mobile and speech to text, pardon typos/grammar and format. This will be long seemingly unending block of text, im also stressed so tldr at top.
Tldr: rescued a destruct-o-cat, feel guilty that I can't make it work and have pushed off returning to the humane society I got her from (adoption contract rules). Tried everything Google and other rescue places suggest and feel relief when shes even gone for an hour. She bullies my stray too. Idk what I want but I need to vent.
So backstory: Last June my cat of 10 years passed away. There had been a stray in the neighborhood from the day I moved in that I had wanted to brihg in but would go months withoappvisiting. Since I couldn't stand to have an empty house I tried to find a rescue. Originally I wanted a comfort animal, something cuddly and big and affectionate. I went to the Humane Society nearby and found this bright-eyed fuzzy 7 months old cat that seemed to be a good fit the day I saw her.
The Disney eyes lied.
Since she has been here she has wreaked havoc on the house. destroying things, peeing on things, getting into areas she is not supposed to be and peeing, yowling for hours outside of the bedroom and bathroom door randomly throughout the night. (I feel like with some of her behavior or lack of certain behaviors that she was taken away from her mom too early) when she kneeds on you she buries her face in the blanket and looks like she's trying to suckle. She's fluffy she floppy she's absolutely adorable but she destroys anything she gets near.
It's gotten to the point where I've had to have her locked in the litter room because she just destroys things. When she's in there she yowls endlessly, claws at the floor until her feet bleed, and body slams the door trying to get out. (This is not a small room it has 3 litter boxes, food and water, and places for her to hide and play.
I feel like this just isn't a good fit and I've had her for almost a year; I've tried cleaning up where she pees or covering up with obstructions but it's gotten worse. Her destructive habits have gotten worse to the point I feel like I can't bond with this cat because she's so stressful. I did end up finding the Stray about 3 months after the rescue and brought her in thinking an older cat would be able to teach her things, would be able to help her learn to behave better, and instead she bullies the Stray. She won't let her eat, won't let her use the bathroom, won't even let her walk by without constantly tryong to jump her. she's got the Stray running and hiding and scared, she even overeats trying to make sure she gets enough. I've tried changing litters, litter boxes, litter placement, playing more, being more affectionate, bending over as far backwards as I can think of to try and make it work with this cat. I've even tried calming collars and sprays and the face push method and water bottles sprays and different cleaners to clean up the messes, and it seems like her behavior is progressively getting worse it's like it's become stable to her and like this is what she's learning to do as permanent Behavior despite my efforts to the contrary.
I feel like if she's gone for even an hour it becomes an entire different environment for myself and the Stray and that things become just so much better. I feel like I'd be abandoning the rescue because I can't find a home for her, I'd have to take her back to the shelter that I got her from due to the adoption contract I signed. She still young so I know she'll get adopted but the guilt is still pretty overwhelming and every time she's cute I keep thinking I'll just give it more time but I've been doing that for 8 months now.
I'm not sure if I'm looking for advice on how to deal with her or if I'm looking to assuage my guilt or what I'm looking for but, I found that along with some pretty harsh truths, and a couple of trolls, for the most part the Reddit Community is honest and blunt and has surprisingly supportive and awesome people. so this is my wordy vent of guilt and stress and frustration.
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