So 4 months ago, I moved out of my parents house to a new city for work. My parents never wanted a cat, but this was my chance so I adopted the most affectionate and gorgeous cat. Fast forward 4 months, my job fell through and I can no longer afford my apartment so I had to move back in with my parents.
My mom doesn’t like pets at all, and my dad doesn’t want a pet, but he’ll accept my cat. Dad is already very loving with the cat, but my mom doesn’t want him upstairs so he stays in the basement. In the long run, me living in the basement isn’t sustainable since there’s only a couch here and I’m currently using a few sheets as a bed. Also I feel bad if the cat has no view of the outside for that long (he’s an indoor cat only). On top of that, my sister has a recently-discovered cat allergy (not too serious, but just itchy eyes and stuffy nose)
What happened this morning is really making me confused about what to do. Keep in mind my dad said to accept any and all criticism my mom gives me about adopting a cat and bringing him home (which she’s not at all happy about). Also said to stay calm and don’t yell and don’t get angry.
I was giving the cat food, and dad was just annoying me with his foot by nudging me so I told him to stop, in an annoying voice. And immediately, he responded by saying how I shouldn’t be reacting to this and he told me not to yell or get angry. I tried to tell him that he was doing something physically annoying and I shouldn’t have to accept that. His response was that “he shouldn’t have to accept the cat but he still is. You’re clearly not ready for a cat and you’re still acting childish. How many times have I told you to not react when someone makes you upset”.
After this, I realized that from this point on, he’s going to ‘threaten’ me with the cat every time I do something he doesn’t like. Especially because he’s allowing the cat, when he doesn’t want a pet in the house. That’s just how he is, and trying to explain otherwise to him is pointless because he always thinks I’m reacting and I shouldn’t be. I’m really confused at it point:
1) mom is unhappy with the cat, and the basement isn’t sustainable in the long run 2) dad is okay with the cat but going forward, will hold it over me 3) sister is allergic (but she loves him)
I can’t even look at my boy without crying at this point. I look at his face and returning him seems like the most unacceptable thing to do. He was an absolutely perfect and loving kitty for the past 4 months. And we’ve gotten so close especially because I lived alone.
I really don’t know what to do. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks
P.s even without a job, I have enough funds set aside for the cat and my parents are willing to support me financially until I’m employed again
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