Sorry for the length in advance.
My dog ‘Choco’ just turned 6. I got her when I was 16 and she is my first proper pet so she kind of like the experimental one. My dad is from poverty (immigrants) and he grew up with 3 dogs - and to them dogs were dogs and weren’t family. Most dogs were street dogs and those that were owned still slept outside. He got me a dog out of me and my younger siblings persistence, and that he felt sorry because the chihuahua we put a deposit for was sold from under us. So the next day we got Choco a Maltese/Shih Tzu instead.
Dad insisted on building her and indoor cage out of wood (btw he’s really bad at DIY) the cage was basically a dark room with no windows. My dog hated it and I decided to get rid of it. However, my dad was not happy that the dog would room free in the house because it was just a dog to him. So he told us to clear the tool shed and she’d have to live there. My dog hated it. My mum came to visit from overseas and let the dog back in the house.
Yes I’m aware Choco did not have an ideal puphood but I didn’t know better and my father was scary. He would threaten to put Choco to the shelter every time she would poop inside. I couldn’t always be in the kitchen to clean up before my father saw. Despite this my dad grew very fond of her and slowly began accepting her into the family. He bought her any type of luxury food I chose and would even let her in the carpet sometimes. He now owns a Dachshund of their own overseas.
Choco is now 6 and she barks at strangers all the time. She has a biting problem and has bitten 8 people including my neighbours and husband (bf at the time) and husbands family. Weird because she’s known my neighbours for years and let my neighbours pick her up and cuddle her a couple of times. It’s like she has a reset button and forgets she in good terms with them. She is very territorial, she barks at any guest -my friends, family friends, elderly and babies. At home alone though she is very sweet and affectionate. Never bitten me intentionally only when she thought I was our other dog trying to get her food. When we are at other people house though she is happy. She is good at in laws houses and friends house. She’s a bit bipolar. When we were at the air bnb she barked and growled at the old man that owned it and at the drive through at the McDonalds employee she went psycho when they delivered food to our car.
My other dog ‘Cream’ is very sweet and welcoming towards strangers and has never bitten anyone. I’d hate to split them up. They get along great despite occasional disputes and fights, but they will boop each on the nose shortly after as to apologise and never hold grudges for that long. They cuddle together at night and respect each other. Choco will give Cream her leftovers if it’s not her favourite.
Like I said Choco is behaved when it’s just my family. She listens to orders and hates being outdoors so she will run back in after going toilet unlike our other dog who likes to stay outside and just stand there. But she’s also very clingy. She stares at me with pleading eyes that get annoying for me and my husband. She quivers all the time like when I’m just staring at her. She literally can’t keep still. Maybe dog ADHD - hyperkinesis. I could take her to the vet and get her Ritalin prescription but we don’t want to be drugging our dog everyday. She wouldn’t be herself. I could get her spayed (she’s not, my other dog is neutered), we were supposed to this year but I heard the older the dog the more chance of risk. And there’s no guarantee she’ll become less territorial.
I told my mum I was thinking of rehoming her because I am pregnant and I think the home will be safer and less problematic without her. My dad freaked out and threatened to kick us out of their house if I ever did (they live overseas and we look after their property here). They don’t want to sell the house or rent it so I am literally the only family of theirs in this country that can look after it. So our arrangement is I look after the house rent free and they have peace of mind.
Anyway it was just a plan. I don’t know what to do now. I’ve seen my dog try to attack my 8 month old niece and I don’t want it to happen when I bring our newborn home. Ideally, I would find a new loving home for her but my as my husband calls it Choco has plot armour and can’t be gotten rid of. I am starting to resent her because I can’t invite my new in laws over or any friends because they are all scared of her. Grown as men (dads friends) have told me to lock her up before they visit. I have all legal rights and documents of Choco, but my parents think because they own the house and Choco was bought when I lived with my father and brothers they get to decide despite me and my husband doing all the cares and them being overseas. Choco hasn’t seen my dad and brothers is almost two years.
AITA? What can I do?
TL;DR: Dog can become violent towards others. I’m pregnant. Parents forbid rehoming despite being overseas. Threatened to kick me out if I do. Resentful towards dog. Could medicate but don’t want to drug dog for the rest of its life.
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