We took in a stray cat and I am having regrets about. Well more like uncertainties.
While we have had cats before, I was never the primary caretaker. At most my responsibilities were to go to the store buy food, give the animal food and change its water. It was like that with the stray tabi we had at my grandparents and the belgian cat I lived with while at my step dads house. The tabi was a pretty lazy cat. Only time he was really active was when he was outside. Rest of the time he mostly slept and rarely went up to us for some petting. The cat at my step dads was the definition of an asshole cat. She didn’t like me, I didn’t like her. But we got along somehow. Anyways, overall the extent of my responsibilities never went over basic necessities for the animal to live.
Around 2 years ago (I was 15 then, now 17) I decided to move back to my grandparents house due to certain circumstances. By that time the tabi we had had died due to lung issues, so we didn’t have any pets. Now I wasn’t a social butterfly when I was 15, but I am even less social now. Or rather I value alone time way more than I did before. Here comes in our new stray cat. So it popped up on our window 2-3 months ago. We began feeding it and I took a liking to it. It slowly became socialized and is now willing to sleep with me. Now there are a couple of issues. First, it’s my first time being the sole caretaker of a cat. So it’s a little stressful. The bit that worries me more is that the cat is pretty cuddly (not lap cat levels of cuddly but cuddlier than I am used to) and I feel bad if I deny her cudliness. She wants to sleep with me, meanwhile I want to sleep alone. Lots of things like that. I have thought if I could give it to someone else, but that’d require an awkward explanation to my grandparents on why I insisted to keep the cat and why I suddenly want to give it to someone else. And it’s not like I don’t like the cat. I like it a fair bit, so I also don’t want to give it away. I also don’t know anybody that wants a cat, nor do I trust myself with making the decision on who to give it to. Since I don’t socialize a lot, I feel like I won’t be able to make the judgement on whether or not the person I am about to give it to is honestly going to take good care of it. Same thing with shelters, whether it is giving to the shelter or asking the shelter to put up advertisements for the cat. So it’s just a constant back and forth between keeping it or giving it and I have no idea what to do. Will I get used to living with a cat at some point? There are some private things that I wouldn't do around other people and I don't want to do around a cat either.
Sorry if this is a bit too stretched. Will try to put in a TL;DR ASAP.
TL;DR
Got cat have uncertainties, certain things I did now I can’t do since I did them alone and I cant consider myself alone if I am with a cat. Cant decide between giving it to another person, or asking a shelter to put up adverts for it, since I am unable to accurately gauge how honest a person is being when they’re talking about how they’ll treat the cat.
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