So let me preface this by saying my boyfriend and I broke up last November after being together for 5 years. We got a cat together a few months into our relationship, and adopted a companion for him 2 years after that. When we broke up, we came to the mutual decision (he had tears in his eyes during this conversation) that I would keep both of the cats at the apartment we shared, as he was going to move into his parents house where they already have 4 dogs and a cat. I also take them to their vet appointments, feed/water them when he did not, and clean their litter boxes. It just felt like the right thing to do, considering all of the above.
Now, even though I know that I’ve done what’s best for our cats, I can’t help but feel so guilty that they will never regularly see him again. He really loved our first cat, but shared a strong special bond with the youngest one, and that breaks my heart for both him and my cats. I just hope the cats have coped okay with the loss of a special human.
I’m on the verge of tears when I think about it still. I feel guilty for even breaking up with him. I feel like I took something so special from him even though we mutually agreed it would be best for the cats that I keep them. The bond he had with these cats was as strong as the bond I have with them, and I could NEVER picture losing them. They are like children to both of us.
Do you think my cats will remember him or miss his presence? I might sound crazy but I wonder if they ever think about him or miss him, and it hurts. When I say my heart is aching over this, I truly mean it. I don’t know how to get past this feeling of guilt. Has anyone else had to deal with breakups and pets?
TL;DR: Boyfriend and I broke up. I took the cats after a mutual agreement. I feel guilty that they’ll never see each other again.
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