I just recently adopted a female cat who was extremely affectionate and cuddly with me, and very vocal whenever I would pet her. She used to run up to me when I would stick out my hand and absolutely love being pet. I decided to adopt the other cat she grew up with, a male, after having her for about 3 weeks, because both seemed lonely. Given that they used to cuddle and love being together I expected things to go decently.
When I brought him home however, she exhibited signs of non-recognition aggression towards him and initially in the first day would not let him within a foot of her. She growled and hissed and eventually started to avoid me and turn some aggression my way. Things calmed down after a few days, but she is still fairly aloof with me where she no longer runs up to my hand to be pet and is much less vocal, whereas he came out of hiding and is very vocal and cuddly. She still hisses at him when he gets within an inch of her (so I would say some progress has been made in that regard). It has only been about a week since I brought him home, but the female is still somewhat avoiding being pet when he is too close to her, but they are able to be near each other (like a foot apart) without anything happening, and eat together without issues.
I know its still early, but I didn't see a need to separate them while I was away at work, because things calmed down greatly after the first day, so I'm just wondering if this will pass eventually and they will start to get along again like they once used to, and if she will get a bit more cuddly like she used to be. The female is more dominate and used to treat him like her baby, so most of the time it just seems like she is teaching him a lesson or just telling him to give her space. Obviously territories are being set up and they're getting used to each other again (more so her than him), and the male is not aggressive towards her, but has been acting a bit more bold lately by getting really close to her, something she doesn't take kindly to yet, then a small cat fight occurs. Originally she would stare at him and not let him out of her sight on the first day or two, and if I approached she would turn aggression towards me, but now she sees him and looks away, meaning she is obviously tolerating his presence more and more, and hasn't been aggressive towards me at all (unless I try to pick her up and bring her inside after having her play time on the balcony which she protests lol).
What happened last night:
Female was lying on a sofa bed next to me sleeping (something she hadnt done for a week cause she was avoiding me), and then male decided to come up to her and jump up next to her which she didnt like (I guess she was mad he woke her up or felt cornered) and began hissing and swatting and then eventually chased him into the other room where a loud meow occurred. I got up from my sleep and clapped my hands to separate them which worked. Last time something like this happened was on day three during the day, but female was much more aloof at that time with me. Last night she came back to the sofa bed and spent the night there, and then I woke up to him at the foot of my bed, and her on the sofa bed, before she came up to me for a couple of head scratches.
I wanted to ask the cat people of reddit their take on this and if you have had a similar experience. I know from the previous owner that the female didn't like the male initially but eventually they loved being around one another. The female is still playful with me and does come up to me a bit more after a week now, but as I said before, has changed her tune slightly towards me. I think its progressing well and she just needs a bit more time, but I would like to hear other opinions and some suggestions if you guys have any!
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