Il try not to rant/vent to much here but need it off my chest, need honest-unbiased opinions. for background im 22 neet, living with mum and her boyfriend but that is another story.
We have a dog named *blank* for privacy, mum and her significant other who I get along with very well got a dog when I was 5-7, a staffie, he has been an amazing dog and a lifelong friend (they broke up when I was 12ish but got back together and it seemed no time had passed, I instantly loved that dog again and he loved me), now, he is 11+ years old, and while he can physically walk and eat he seems to showslittle to no awareness, for example
on sofa or day or up and down endlessly
Lets out for toilet and 10minutes later takes a shit in the house like nobody offered him a break
when we're all out of house will shit then WALK IT ALL OVER THE HOUSE, behaviour ignored and acted as if normal "he had a good day today! he went out for a shite".
(not sure if pain but he don't want anything, anything I tried he starts again 10 minutes later) whining turning to barking for hours at a time when parent and associate/friend is away (and when it starts, it dont stop, whatever I do don't matter to him, i go down see to him let him out check food/water, sitting for him for 10-20mins, and 10minutes later he starts again, this goes on for hours or until he stops, 30min - 2hrs depending on those he clearly sees as family (not me, hes either mentally mad or resents me) come back, im surprised there have been no noise complaints, but then again we live next to someone who openly sells drugs, so how can they complain, I can though.
the dog has started doing it in the night and not just the day when they're away, part of me thinks "yeah well, now you feel my pain, what i had months of when you have work, hope he continues and it gets through your head", but my mum recently fell down the stairs half asleep seeing to him, who was right behind her asking if okay? me? who picked up the dogshite me...
Im sad, I love dogs, we have another dog now which we rescued from a gypsy camp and was skinny as a bone, dog caused little to no issue and i love her, but ive come to resent the old dogs howling pissing shitting and barking, he wont stop for me. I dont know why. when I express to to my mums boyfriend (less emotional, im an only child and she treats the dogs as her other kids) he replied "he listens to me, il go down and smack him" (hes a good man, believe it or not, and i presume he means a light smack across ears, so I shamefully tried the same, it dont feel good and il try my best not to again, no promises, dog acts clueless to his surroundings as he fucking is, then starts again 10 minutes later, I am not his owner, I dont understand how this worked for him and not me, the dog has lost his mind..... I'm sorry animal lovers, I am one of you to but at ends whitt)
Today after reading other posts of "wont put old dog down" I decided to say something to my mum as we're alot closer while bf was away, I said something along the lines after I came down to yet another shit and she said "i let him out 5 minutes ago", "if I ever become like this and am mostly blind and death I wouldn't want to be here" she started getting angry questioning me and I got more on offensive side and said "well I wouldn't want to live and trod around my own shit", her argument was when she gets old and needs the bathroom, would I put here down. Well obviously not, I would help her to go to it. But after thinking about my response if she was 100+ years old (dog years) and I helped her to the toilet, she ignored and then shat across the house and walked in it, was blind besides 10cm from her face and 90% deaf, with no way of communicating yes I think she would be better in the afterlife and so would I, I believe in euthanasia someone is in pain or has no quality of life, to her the dog still has quality of life.
"I'm glad *blank* (mums bf who has had the old dog all these years) wasn't here to here you say that, its not happening" was her response when I walked off and left the issue behind, to her, I want to kill her baby, I sort of feel bad but at the same time know they havn't seen the worst of it, so I end this with how do I continue now? let his degrading continue as I know he wont get better, push more and create family tensions or put up with the dogs....well shit. (metaphoric and literal) all responses i'l take on head, we all have a love for animals here and I'm truly storry
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