I said I didn't want to be responsible.

My 20 year old daughter decided she wanted to get a dog last summer. 1 month after my cat of 16 years passed away. We told her we needed a break and that we did not want the responsibility of a dog. We both work full time jobs. My husband from home and me going into the office. She had already gotten the dog, her boyfriend was keeping it till she told us. The dog is now 10 months old, undisciplined, untrained, still going potty IN the house E V E R Y single day. I can't walk her because she pulls so hard, it winds up being an exercise in frustration and not healthy for the dog or me. She jumps up on the counters and the dining room table and has scratched the snot out of my dining room table. My work situation had gotten extremely toxic during Covid and I finally, after 18 years at this place, turned in my notice 2 weeks ago. I have been trying to have a sit down adult conversation for over a month to work this out, brainstorm, what can we do to help each other. I do love this dog. None of the situation is her fault. All I've managed to do is mention in passing, that if there is an expectation that the dog is going to be here during the day, kennel training needs to happen. BEFORE my last day. She doesn't need to stay in it all day, but she needs to be reasonably content to be in there for a few hours at a time, with a walk in between. Currently she is pushing her kennel pan out of the cage, and digging holes in the carpet under the cage. She vomits after being kenneled and its carpet fibers that she is barfing up. We live in a rented apartment. No kennel training happened. The dog was at her boyfriends house every day of my last 2 weeks. No potty training has happened. No dog walking training has happened. My daughter won't even walk her own dog. We had set up an apartment balcony situation for the dog to potty on during the winter, with the understanding that she cleaned it weekly. And it was for night time and when it was just frigid outside. 3.5 months later and it has NEVER been cleaned. And all that did was encourage her to NEVER walk her dog. She just lets her out on the balcony. Am I the a**hole because I am frustrated and resentful at this situation, when I have clearly and repeatedly said, "I do not want to be responsible for a dog. I NEED A BREAK FOR MY SANITY!"

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