I've adopted the most wonderdul creature that has ever been on earth a few months ago, after hesitating a lot because I wanted to be sure I would give him the best home possible - and my appartment is tiny, and my cat has to stay indoor (he's FIV positive), and I (used to) go out a lot. Actually I moved in my flat to be closer to transportation and be able to go out even more, but a few days after I moved in I heard about this cat who was abused and in need of a home and well. Now he's my cat, I love him, I take great care of him and he seems really happy. He also brings me profound joy.
Thing is, since I've adopted him, I've started going out less and less, to the point I barely see my friends anymore and this makes me really sad. When I do go out, I feel guilt for leaving him alone, anxiety about how lonely he must feel, and well, I generally come back to see my flat slightly more destroyed. So without thinking about it I've started staying at home more and more, refusing plans etc.
It doesn't feel good and I know that on the long run this situation is going to make me feel miserable. I need my social life, I love my friends and want to see them, I want to experience things outside my home and know I cannot be truly happy without these aspects of my life. At the same time - I might be projecting my own feelings here - it feels unfair for my cat to be locked in a flat his whole life and to not even have his human companion with him as much as possible.
So, my question is : how do you indoor cat owners balance being there for your feline friend(s) and spending time out of home?
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